HOW DO I MAKE THIS DAMN DECISION ABOUT THIS? I GO WITH A BOY NAME DUDE SO HIS BESTFRIEND JUST KISSED ME AND HE NOW WANTS TO SHOW HIS TRUE FELLING ABOUT ME. BUT, HE SAYS THAT IF I DO NOT GET WITH HEM HE WOULD TELL MY BOYFRIEND THAT I KISSED HEM AND IF I TELL HEM IT WOULD BREAK UP THERE FRIENDSHIP SENCE THE 1ST GRADE . SO, PLEZ TELL ME WHAT IN THE HELL CAN I DO ?
2006-07-08 11:33:46 · 12 answers · asked by Latoya R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do not give in to him. You did not do anything wrong Dude's "so called" friend is the one who is in trouble and he knows it that is why he is blackmailing you. Let him tell Dude that he is the one who kissed his girlfriend. Come on he is not going to tell and if he does what do you care? Remember that you did not do anything wrong his friend took advantage of you and you were thoughtful enough of your boyfriend's feelings to want to protect him from the pain of learning that his so called friend had betrayed him so deeply so let him tell. Make sure you tell him to tell. You want him to tell..maybe he wants your help.
2006-07-08 11:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by mitchsgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all---you need to tell your boyfriend. It's nothing but a game on his friend's part, trying to show your boyfriend that he can have any girl he dates. No true friend would do something like that to his/her friend, so in essence you are not messing up their friendship, because there is no real friendship between them. It is all a game, and if your boyfriend does not believe you, then you do know that you do not mean a whole lot to him and might as well let him go.
Secondly, I'd like to point something out to you: cursing will not solve anything. I think you should consider that when you write or talk. There is always a better way to express our feelings, it does not have to be with foul language. Also, and I truly hope that you will not be upset about this, try to learn how to spell correctly. I cannot emphasize enough how important a good education is, and it does include proper spelling. I am not going to tell you to focus on that like so many would do, but I am telling you that you will have a lot of difficulties later on down the road if you do not know how to write and spell, and I do know what I am talking about: I raised 2 children, put them through school, and even though they participate at times in foul language when talking among their peers, they will not write and leave things misspelled. That is out of the question for both of them.
Education is the solution, and there are ways to get educated even if you don't have money---but you have to want it---so try to watch for errors when you write, correct them, and if you are not sure, look up the spelling in a dictionary....Good Luck
2006-07-08 18:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for this trap. He is threatening you with keeping the secret of the kiss with him. Sounds like a deadbeat to me. In fact, if it did destroy your boyfriend's long term friendship with him, don't you think it would be for the better? Good riddence. Meanwhile, if your boyfriend were to be angry about the kiss or side with his friend, perhaps he isn't worthy of you.
Don't ever fall for any kind of blackmailing trick like this. Do the right thing and let the truth be told. Regardless of what happens, you will always be glad in the long run. Truth will always prevail. Good luck.
2006-07-08 18:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Gemini man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he is much of a friend if he goes behind his buddy's back to get to his friend. Think about this. If you do get with the friend, you will always be around your ex. I highly doubt that he will tell your b/f and if he does...just say. "The reason that I didn't tell you that HE hit on me, is that I knew that you guys were friends for a really long time, and I didn't want to get in the middle, I just thought that it would go away.. I didn't kiss him back, and I want you...not him."
2006-07-08 18:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, that's blackmail and this friend of your boyfriend deserves a kick to the dick! You didn't kiss him so don't worry. Tell you BF that HE initiated it and he is trying to get with you even though you are already dating somebody. If your boyfriend doesn't believe you over a his (dishonest, shitty) so call best friend, then maybe he should suck his best friend off.
2006-07-08 18:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says hes gonna get back at you by liieing to your boyfriend, then dont be with him! tell your boyfriend the truth about what happened-that he kissed you but you dont have feelings for him-before this other guy has the chance to lie about anything.
2006-07-08 18:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by AG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he is gonna threaten you in oder to be with you you should kick his a** to the curb. Thats just early sign of possiveness. I think you should also figure out if you really wanna be with you boyfriend, cause you kissed his best friend! Plenty of fish in the sea!!
2006-07-08 18:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY MIND MAKE UP. J/K I say you choose what makes u happy cuz lifes 2 short 2 spend on trying to make everyone else happy.
2006-07-08 18:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by BAMBAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do inny minnie minine mow....
um seriously though- if hes basically blackmailing u to get with him hes not worth getting with- stay with your guy but tell him the truth first and that it meant nothing to u and ur sorry.
2006-07-08 18:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell ur bf first. if he loves and trust u he will understand his friend is a back stabber who hit on u.
2006-07-08 18:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋