My ex is a functional alcoholic. She drinks a lot, but she also works, feeds our kid, gets her to school, makes sure the homework gets done, etc. My ex is taking our daughter to a wedding out of state where she will most likely get too drunk to care for our daughter. I don't want to get a gardian ad litem or special advocate for our daughter because I don't want to put her through the legal meat grinder. I'm hoping for some options other than police, court, child services...
2006-07-08 11:26:33 · 6 answers · asked by Shannon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please excuse my input, but my perception of a functional alcoholic as you describe, is one who is frequently arrestable, but has thus far avoided detection. Please consider this: As she seems to be performing (marginally) well taking care of the children, driving them here to there, etc, she is a high risk for an accident where your loved ones, and those of another family, may die. And when she attends a party and gets drunk, she has to get home...and this suggests more drunk driving with kids in the car. Best to take a stand now while you have some chance to preserve the life of your child, because after the crash....you'll be remorseful for the rest of your life. She's not exactly functional, just elusive and lucky.
2006-07-08 11:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do unless you get others involved. If things are so serious that you are in fear for your daughters life, then it would be better to "put her trough" the legal process if it keeps her alive don't you think?
Fight for you daughter. My ex - wife is both a boozer and doper, and I have had custody of my daughter since she was 2 years old. She is 17 now. Most people told me I was crazy to fight for my child. I would be crazy if I didn't.
Life isn't easy always as a single parent, but having your child die when you could do something about it would be a much worse thing to live with.
2006-07-08 18:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't let her go. Or let her go and something bad will happen. Seems like you know that or else you wouldn't be asking. Also, an ALCOHOLIC is an ALCOHOLIC.... there's no functioning there. You'll be lucky if your kids don't grow up to be like that. Good luck.
2006-07-08 18:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to keep your daughter, so your x can have a really good time.
2006-07-08 18:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with van winkle ..i've had custody for five yrs now and my x was like that ........
2006-07-08 18:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe go with.. or have her stay behind....
2006-07-08 18:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋