i know that i love him, but the trust is gone, he says he's sorry, and wants marriage to work, but yet dosn't want to work on the marriage, what am i to do
2006-07-08 11:24:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ULTIMATUM!!! Some men think if you dont think about a problem and ignore it , it will go away. These men sometimes need to be pushed or scared into actually facing the pproblems. As a man who has been cheated on but never cheated, you cant ever remind him of being unfaithful after things are settled.This just makes them think you have'nt moved past it . Keep your untrust to yourself if it pops up after ward . Don't act cold to him either this turns ppl offf to you . I wish you luck and solidarity, This was the most trying time in my life too , but i got through it and so can you. My marriage is better now than ever.
2006-07-08 11:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by RM802001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't. once a cheater, always a cheater. He says he wants to make the marriage work but isn't willing to put forth the effort, it isn't going to work. it takes two to make a marriage work, you can't hold it together yourself. The trust is already broken and can't be earned back, he is sorry you found out, not with what he did.
there will always be a part of you that loves him, but now that the truth is out, you will not be able to trust him, you will always wonder if he is cheating on you etc.
Put the man to the curb and mend your own heart, because he won't. Sorry doesn't cover betrayal.
2006-07-09 02:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by apryl2rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are already married and you have someone else that you like, have an affair too. Because in any relationship , once a partner has been unfaithfull, and the other partner accepts him with that flaw, it is a passport to do it again.
If you can't have an affair because you believe in morals and two wrongs not making a right, then you have convinced yourself to live with him and accept his cheating ways. But there is always divorce.
2006-07-08 18:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to couples therapy/marriage counseling to help build trust but if you feel he doesn't want to work analyze the relationship. If he respected and loved you he wouldn't have done that you have to weigh in all the options and see if you want to work at it or take a break. Good luck.
2006-07-08 18:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by kittT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well without trust its rough. He has to earn it back. As far as your marriage is concerned, he has to understand that if its going to work, he has to work at it as well as you too. If he doesn't see this or want to, then he's not committed to the marriage and its not going to work, as painful as that may be.
If he really loves you, then he will work on the marriage.
2006-07-08 18:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by chalis913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you don't. You will never be able to trust him again, that thought will always be in the back of your mind. There's a reason why the bible says divorce is acceptable in cases of adultery.
2006-07-08 18:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's going to be hard you need to ask yourself if your ever gonna be able to trust him again. you need to tell him since he wants it to work than he needs to do whatever it takes to help you through it(counseling) or whatever else may help you. good luck!!!
2006-07-08 18:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not make my marriage wok if he cheated on me. If i was you i would leave.If he cheated on you before he will do it again.
2006-07-08 18:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.
2006-07-08 18:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by mitchsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋