I honestly believe I am a male, in a female's body.
No, I'm not a dyke. Aggressive. Or any "masculine" terms.
I just, don't feel like I should be in what I am now.
I'd be quite the "effeminite" male.
Gay, definetly.
I know, I know. Most FTM cases are along the lines of : Felt left out since childhood. I never did.
So perhaps in an alternate (and more correct) life, I would be a male whom wasn't necissarily "girly", or "masculine".
Any tips on WHAT THE BLOODY HECK I AM?
I'd definetly say something between crazy, or gender confused.
2006-07-08 11:13:36 · 17 answers · asked by sduuppeer_heidi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
uhhh
"tomboy"?
2006-07-08 11:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by somethingsovague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for asking this. :)
What do you want? Are you afraid that you are not feminine enough to be a woman? Do you think that you are masculine enough to be a guy? It seems you are struggling with your identity...not just about gender. I noticed that you did not mention any sexual desire, so I guess that's not an issue? I know lots of women and men that are not happy with their bodies, but gender never was an issue for them.
Would it be a problem for you to be woman that is not lady-like? (did you know that some guys find that to be a turn on?) I think you are confused, and that's okay. If you are a woman biologically, then I'd say that you are a woman throughout. But just because you don't think that you are very womanly, certainly doesn't mean that you aren't. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and God is very pleased to Father you.
2006-07-08 18:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by ehneged 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can tell you anything too meaningful over the internet, but there are counselors for gender issues that aren't all judgemental and yuck.
I would add that in my opinion, there's three different things going on in all people: Sex, Gender Identity (capitolized, even), and then a bunch of societal garbage that doesn't mean anything. I feel that outside of all the societal business (that your use of quotes implies you do recognize as bull), there is still a feeling of "I am male" for myself, and rather likely in yourself too. So, if you're a "societal female", that really doesn't mean anything. Good luck.
2006-07-09 00:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is easiest when you don't try to force yourself into categories.
i, myself, am an ftm. i never felt 'left out', per se. i just never felt like a girl. none of the ftms i know (including myself) are any sort of aggressive stereotype. we're just guys. i know some who are more on the 'masculine' side and some that aren't. hell, i know a couple who are gay. your personality and orientation are completely seperate from your gender identity.
this is not to say you are an ftm. ultimately, you just need to find the place where you're most comfortable. a full on gender transition is a huge undertaking. but for those of us who aren't comfortable in our given skin, it makes all the difference. i know it has for me.
2006-07-08 18:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by petka82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a fetus is growing inside the mother's womb, it always begins as female. After this, if the sperm carried a Y chromosome, the male brain and reproductive organs begin to form.
What happened with you might be that the male brain began to form, but the female reproductive organs stayed behind. I feel for you, but I say you should be yourself!
Good luck!
~Maria Isabel~
2006-07-08 18:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by Maria Isabel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are confused!!! You are probably a tomboy!! If you like sports hanging around guys than you are just a tomboy....you just want to mind yourself when and if you are around guys what you say and how you look at a girl when they pass by.....but if you look at the girl in a lustful way then you could be turning gay!!! But i think you are just a tomboy (a girl who doesn't always go for the "girly" look) But at some point and time some tomboys do dress "girly" at some point and time in there lives!!!
2006-07-08 18:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this probably doesn't help but why try to label yourself. There are too many people in this world trying to label everyone and everything. Although I don't think you are crazy, to me you are more gender confused......Just take some time to figure things out for yourself....don't worry what others label you as for now....you can correct their mistake later.....
2006-07-08 21:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Why must the squirrels watch me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago you could have gone to a Doctor and gotten some help.
Due to Political Correctness -- they can no longer help.
2006-07-08 18:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor get a chromosome check. Or may be you need some hormone therapy. Don't stress yourself out.
2006-07-08 21:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if anyone could answer that question they'd be ahead of the rest of us. Finding out who we are is what makes life interesting, just keep your options open and in time you will see.
2006-07-08 18:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by collegedebt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are. Gender roles are not physiological, they are learned through society. They are only labels and stereotypes. Don't live your life to fit any specific stereotype, just be who you are, and love who you love. Everything else will work itself out.
2006-07-08 19:46:33 · answer #11 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋