Why do people go out of their way to be mean to others?

Question

Because it's easier than being nice?

But it's so tiring to be mean. It takes up a lot of energy and it places unnecessary stress on the body. I get neck and shoulder pains after a bout of bitchiness, that's why I'm often nice to everyone. And I'm a saint so it's hard to act meanly towards others.

Answer 1

Amen!! I couldn't agree with you more!

I think people have this need to feel better about themselves. Therefore, they put down others feeling that it somehow promotes themself in the process. But in the longrun.......they seriously end up feeling like creeps as well. It is so hard to understand why society works like this sometimes. I'm with you......it takes a wholelot more effort. And so not worth it. Smiling is much more fun......and burns more calories! lol

Thanks for being nice........we need more like you. :)

Answer 2

It's sad people feel the need to do that, but often it is because they feel bad about themselves so they think they'll feel better if they try to get someone else down. Sometimes it's to get attention, as some attention even if punishable is better than no attention to them. Also they may feel they have been hurt by the person they are attacking, so trying to get back. Or just hurting so much in general that they want to attack anyone nearby. So - good to be curious and try to find out why, rather than feel like a victim. You may even end up with a friend, or you may be able to help the person, but know yourself and how to say 'no' if necessary, especially if some 'sickness' is at the root of the problem, and who you can contact to get help if that's needed. When you feel that in your body, maybe you are sometimes feeling the other person's pain like an empath. Just check if you know the reason for the pain, and if you don't then see how the other person is. As a Saint maybe you can bring healing love to the person.

Answer 3

Well I think alot of people are selfish, they want what they want and they want it right now regardless of others feelings or needs. For some people by being nasty to others makes them feel better about themselves, they have major esteem problems, they have to attack others to feel better about themselves. I think also, sometimes people don't feel good or are sick, scared, they attack otehrs rather than reach out for help. I know how you feel, after being the underdog of a bitchy boss, I make it a point to always treat others like I want to be treated. The world would be a better place if people had courtesy, manners, and respect for others and property.

Answer 4

Apparently it is easier then being nice - like explain that one to me!! I just had this conversation with someone about it the other day - they said that being nice wasn't that easy. Please!! Being nice is so much easier than being mean! I don't get it either...!! Sorry I didn't answer your question, I am nice to everyone also....I have no idea how to be intentionall mean towards others. It's just not very nice!!

Answer 5

Some people are just mean. I think that they are not happy with themselves and they want to bring someone good down so they can feel better about themselves.

I am sorry if someone has been mean to you or someone you love. Just remember. They do this because you are better than they are and they don't like that.

You are a good person. Your question proves it.

Answer 6

Because they are deeply insecure and being mean to others makes them feel better about themselves. Usually their lives are out of control, and being nasty helps them to regain some of that control back. Don't be mean about others. Instead have the courage to tell them why they are p*****g you off. Hopefully that will prevent you walking around with your neck tilted to one side when your old!!

Answer 7

I've never figured that out but here's my guess: We are treated how we treat other people. We may think we're "nicer" and treat only a few people badly...once in a while. Those mean people are probably just like us...they're only mean to people once in a while...we just happen to be that time.

The answer is to treat people nicely always...and eventually everybody's meanness will go away. (In other words...when we're perfect...everybody else will be perfect, too.)

Answer 8

I can't remember the last time I knew someone who was mean to another person on purpose. Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong people!

Answer 9

Because inside they are an insecure child who needs to feel powerful over others and does this by bullying.

Answer 10

Misery loves company.