We used to be happy and do things together but now there is so much space. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for more than two years now. We trust one another completely and almost never fight. We enjoy being together and love one another. He is really good to me but I still cry myself to sleep sometimes. Why do I feel so unhappy when everything is so perfect???
2006-07-08 10:41:17 · 6 answers · asked by twinkles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps you do love him as you say, but then you may not be IN love with him. It could be that in the beginning since everything was new, it was all exciting and fun, there was just so many great things to do together. But when everything started to settle down, you may have had time to look around you.
You may have to start evaluating your relationship. Yes, he is a great man, but do you want to stay with him? Do you think that maybe you two were just meant to be great friends? Are you able to see him as just a good friend? You need to ask yourself these.
Only you can know the answer. Don't be in a hurry, but also do not take too much time. If you really are in love with him, then find out why you feel this way. Talk to him and tell him. You both are a team so you both need to help each other. If you are not in love with him, then you need to let him go. It will hurt both of you, but you need to be honest. In time he may understand and you may continue the friendship. It would be for the best because if you try to hide it and stick it out eventually it will hurt the relationship and you both may not have any type of relationship at all. So think really hard and carefully.
Either way, I wish you the best...
2006-07-08 11:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Iya 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well there is obviously something missing in ya'lls relationship even though it seems perfect. If you are bored with the relationship, tell him how you fell. Try some new things together that could possibly spice up the relationship!! If nothing changes maybe ya'll need a break from each other for a while. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-08 18:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by D's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything was so perfect you would not cry yourself to sleep. You said it yourself, there is so much space. Figure out why there is the gap and close it. Maybe you should fight a little more so you can have some makeup lovin'.
2006-07-08 17:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get rid of him. he's good for you. However, you may want to try taking on new challenges in your life.
Try adding some hobbies, crafts or advancing in your career or developing your children.
If you are very much a people person, try volunteering with some of the youth programs, because there are a lot of younger people who need guidance, and that will give you the challenge you need in one area, while you still have your boyfriend as stability in another.
2006-07-08 17:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by electroberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's not all that perfect if you're crying yourself to sleep.
Examine your thoughts at those times. That should give you your answer. Are you unhappy with him.........or yourself?
2006-07-08 17:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the relationship has run it's course.
2006-07-08 17:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by All gods are useless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋