My wife is obsessed with a game spending all of our time + money on it. I ask her 2 stop +she says that im not her dad. what do i do? I really don't want to have to get rid of my computers i am a tech and need to stay on top of tech. She is wanting to get a job to support this habbit but that only fixes the money situation but making the other part "us spending time together" worse.
2006-07-08 10:33:29 · 18 answers · asked by glitch1983 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok the game is second life.
2006-07-08 10:40:01 · update #1
Im scared i am really in love with her i would die for her but the way she has been acting lately doesnt feel like she feels the same. I lost my job and i told her to stop spending money in game she still did. then i tell her not to spend more because charges in the bank haven't showed up yet and the money is not what it shows is available she still spent more. She is probably spending as i type this.
2006-07-08 10:45:12 · update #2
I think she would actually go through with the divorce at this point. I don't know what to do...
2006-07-08 10:47:29 · update #3
What game is it? The best thing to do is communication. Tell her right up front that you don't mind her playing the game, but not all the time and that you want to spend time with her. If she can't understand that, then perhaps you need to let her know that's she's hurting the relationship. If she still doesn't cut back, then perhaps you need to analyze her commitment to the relationship.
2006-07-08 10:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by chalis913 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most women wont like hearing this: dont ask her to stop, tell her to stop. if it comes to it, get rid of every computer but yours and have it password protected. there is absolutely no excuse for a game to take the time that a man and wife should be spending together. my g/f (we live together) used to spend hours upon hours playing a game. before we moved in together there was a very firm stipulation that i would not tolerate that. as crayz as it is, that type of thing can tear a relationship apart, i refuse to let a relationship die over a computer game. it boiled down to this. i would rather my other half be pissed at me for a while than let the lack of quality time together (spent playing instead) slowly decay the relationship. but hey, that just me.
2006-07-08 10:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by freekyfirestarter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have to treat her like a teenager that is out of control. Either cut off finances to her so she can't play the game or remove the computer from the house when she's not at home. If you need the computer for work put passwords on it. Quit playing around unless you can afford to let her play/gamble on a stupid game, and it doesn't matter what game it is!
2006-07-22 02:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her look straight into ur eyes, at a preetty sensible cool time of the day. say everything u feel, all, how this thing can ruin. say it all, as in make every letter clear. dont blame, accuse or be annoyed, let her hear all. then dont listen to any reply. just walk off gently and take ride or something.come back and dont talk about it for 3 days. if she continues, tell her about the divorce.
please be normal all the way..good luck, and get back if it works
2006-07-22 09:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by ay. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what game may i ask? I used to play eq for 3 years..it was an addiction..it took me that entire 3 years to get to lvl 70..and i still wasnt bored with the game..I just finally realized it was a waste of money and a waste of my life.
2006-07-08 10:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's really out of control on this. And its affecting both your relationship and your work. Her situation is affecting the quality of life for both of you.
You can't change her. You didn't cause it and you can't cure it. You can, however, decide what you want for your life. Seek counseling through a low or no-cost service or through your clergy. Build the best you possible.
2006-07-22 10:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a way you can block the game or get rid of it somehow without her knowing she is addicted and needs help. She might be missing something out of life and she just does not know it.
2006-07-22 07:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, your wife sounds like she's got an addiction, to the game. it sounds funny, but it may be true. she's willing to do whatever it takes to continue to play the game, like get a job. what will happen, if it is an addiction, is that she will likely lose her job because of it. her neglecting spending time with you, what else? pretty soon, if not already, it'll get out of control.
2006-07-08 10:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her on a long holiday and when you get back make sure the computer is gone - Then talk as after a long break she may realise how screwed up she had become.
Hey SHOW HER ALL THESE ANSWERS ?
2006-07-22 08:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by TD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is challenging your authority, are you gonna let her get away with that? you need to take her down a peg or two. before you know it she will be wearing pants and think she is in charge, better buy you some dresses, you will be wearing them soon. tech=porn
2006-07-08 10:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋