Im 15, am my boyfriend want to have sex, but im not ready, but i want to help him out, he said oral would be nice, but i find it gross, and i dont want it back. Do i just give it anyway, or find other ways?and what other way is there.
2006-07-08 10:11:17 · 29 answers · asked by Denise D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, if you are not ready to have sex, he should respect that. I know the feeling of wanting to help them out. First of all, if you feel uncomfortable, do not try anything!!!! But if you don't feel uncomfortable you could "jack him off" If you use a little bit of lubrication such as KY or such it will make it easier. I really think that you can make you own desicions on this so I'm not going to tell you not to do anything! I hope that everything goes well! Just remember, if you don't feel comfy, don't do it!!
2006-07-08 10:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by miranda_faye07 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Let's hope I will not be the only boy answering...but here it goes.
First of all, that boy probably hit a testosteron crisis and needs to
cool off...don't help him. If he asks you and insists and at some point says something like "I thought you loved me" just walk away. It is clear he does not love you, or even understand you. He wants sex. And there is no sex in the champagne room. Now, if you are not ready, just tell him that it bothers you when he insists. Period. If however you want to try it, it is really important that you feel comfortable near him, that you really love him and he loves you back. Otherwise, you might not feel ok inside the next day. Now, as to oral sex, the main problem usually regarding oral sex is hygene...boys and girls alike. Hygene regarding smells and pubic hair. If those are the reasons that you do not like oral sex, just talk to him about it. Communication is really important. However, if you really don't like oral sex, don't even jerk him off. Like the others said, he can do it by himself. And plus, that is not love, not even sex. Remember, when you are ready. And usually, the first time you do it, it will hurt a bit and some blood may apear, but that is just at the begining. Ask him to take you slow at start, and you set the pace.
2006-07-08 18:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bleau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years old?? You are way to young to be having sex in the first place and oral isn't going to make a difference once you do that then why not go all the way. Your boyfriend shouldn't be pushing you to do it and you shouldn't think that you have to help him out. He is a boy and he knows how to Jerk off him self. He doesn't need you. Wait until you are older and tell him if he respects you then he wont even ask you to do that.
2006-07-08 17:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by mommyof2_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay gurl..im 15 so listen to me..i have been in the same exact situation..and i gave in..and giving oral isint as fun if ur not recieving it..umm if ur not ready then DONT do it..he should love u and not want to just do sexual things with u...if he really loves u and cares for you then he will wait until the time is right ...which is when u are ready...and if u are ready and u want to do oral then go ahead..it wont hurt anything...but make sure he has no stds before u do something like that...but anyways...i hoped this helped and remember dont let him just use u for sexual things..you may see love..and he may see lust...so figure some **** out before u do something u will regret later...good luck*
Kayla
2006-07-08 18:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by $Kay-Kay$ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait believe me its really not worth it giving a guy oral is so demeaning no telling where his thing has been you could be cleaning it up after he;s been with some other chick you could also get a diesease from it like herpes and it never goes away you could have gross big sores on your mouth for the rest of your life and never get rid of them. Believe me if hes begging you like that all the time he is begging someone else to and might have already gotten from them . Be strong and don't give it there is so much time for that stuff later in life. Most teenage guys will say anything to get you in bed and then after they do they tell all there friends and brag about it then you look like a hoe and they look like a mack!!
2006-07-08 17:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if your boyfrined loves you or really likes you then he would understand that you arent ready and he would wait until you are. Never do anything you dont want to do you will only regret it in the long run. you have your whole life to deal with before you jump into having sex. sex is a big deal and if you give in before your ready oral or not. then when you do find the right one for you you will be glad you have waited and so will he .good luck on making the right decision hun
2006-07-08 17:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oral sex is still sex. You are right about you not being ready. I am 15 right now and i regret that i didn't wait. And yes oral sex is gross and you can get a std from it. So wait. You won't regret it.
Sex is not a game. Tell your boyfriend that if he really cares about you then he you respect your discussion to wait. and if he doesn't when drop him.
2006-07-08 17:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by r.n.b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready and he really loves you he will wait if he does not want to wait you need to stay away from him this is the #1 way to get raped....a 15 year old boys hormones are nothing to play with...please remember if you give or receive oral sex you can still get STDs (sexually transmitted diseases)
2006-07-08 17:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by copsgrl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 15 and have your whole life ahead of you.
He can wait.
Sex and related is one of the LAST things he should be worrying about. He should focus on a real relationship.
About loving you and you loving him.
It's your body, not his, he should just have to wait.
If he doesn't like it, oh well, this is the least of things to care about in a real relationship. NEVER, ever give in.
You are your own person, you have GREAT value.
You are worth more than what most people show and certainly more than society says women have.
He should be valuing you like a diamond star, and not care about sex or the like, and care about loving you and being loved by you.
If that's all he can think of he's not worth it and he probably doesn't truly love you.
There is a classy, attractive, and yet pure and honor keeping and safe thing about girls who wait for such things until after they are married, when they have a committed and real relationship not one that is held by the strings of life like teen years.
Beisides you have a life to live, such things could complicate and possibly ruin your teen and young adult life with consequences that are hard and take all of your time.
If your interested in some things on how guys SHOULD behave and respect their girlfriends, and how many guys think and what is very attractive in girls. look at my answer to this question.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoDkTkGWz.I16u3.DzbQQGjsy6IX?qid=20060708114846AAPCneM
If you want to talk more about it you can email me at
rambocommandodude@yahoo.com
Men are not pigs, but some need to learn respect and love.
Being a guy myself I can well advise you in some areas of dealing with your boyfriend in a loving yet stern manner.
I hope this was helpfull to you.
2006-07-08 17:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by rambocommandodude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, if ur not effin ready u dont give it him nothing, ur 2 young 2 be having sex, and that is horrible x.x if u dont want it u let him know u dont want it dont do it becuz he wants it, if thats all he wants kick him 2 the curb more then likely if he wont wait he will get it from sum1 else
2006-07-08 21:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by MisSieS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋