Why do women tend to accept there Abusers back into their lives?

Answer 1

because their spirit has been broken down by that very person. They have been told the whole time they were with them that they are worthless and no good and will never find anyone else who would love them. Once your spirit has been broken you tend to believe what the abuser has told you, therefore in your mind that is how reality really is. If you leave you will never find someone who loves you! That you are absolutley nothing in anyone elses eyes!

Answer 2

lots of reasons, sometimes its financial, sometimes they think if they just show him enough love he'll change and they can fix him, sometimes its what they grew up with and dont know any better, they think its what love looks like, sometimes they think they aren't worth anymore or will never find any better, mostly though its because even bad things that you know are less scary than the unknown. abusers generally wear them down to the point where they honestly start to believe they deserve to be treated this way and that it is their fault, they isolate them so they believe they are alone in the world and nobody will help them, its all part of the game abusers play and they tend to be very good at it.

Answer 3

Because they see no other solution, they're afraid of being on their own and their self esteem is so low from being beat down that they think no man would ever want them. They see no other way out, no light at the end of the tunnel, so they go into that happy "honeymoon phase" and it all just starts all over again. I've heard too many women say "But I love him" through a fat, bloody lip.

Answer 4

Believe it or not it is the behavior they are used to and also they think that by taking the person back they are pleasing them and the abuse will stop.The same happens with an abused child. They will hang on to the one parent that abuses them

Answer 5

Low self esteem. And the need to take care of the abuser after they promise to change, its that feeling of being needed.Abused women need to gain there self respect,and stand up for themselves, there is a better life out there all it takes is courage and determination.

Answer 6

for the fact the they love them , the hope that they will change, low self-estem after not only getten beaten down but also put down, money to live, most men who abuse there wife control alot not only the wifes life, how they act and so on , but they often control the money flow to , so if their wife's or try to leave that they can't, so that they can't get far.

Answer 7

my soon 2b ex attempted at 1 point to strangle me, and when I went back to him as stupid as I was I found out from my counselor that they believe that abused 1 feels he/she can change the abuser well I discovered that I couldnt so I got out

Answer 8

I feel when your living in a bad situation and it ends, it's the only way they know. they need to reprogram what they feel love is.
I have always beleived bad is all they know. they need counseling to realize. Love doesn't haves to hurt by abuse in it.

Answer 9

becuse that women is co indepent means she needs some one there but fthe one that hits her so she not going to say nothing cause she dont want him to leave her so she stays wit him even though he hit trips and every thing but if you know some body like that just ask them is this what you want and encourage them that they could do better

Answer 10

I believe it's learned behavior