Would you tell the mistresses husband if your boyfriend told you not to?

Question

My boyfriend cheated on me with his bestfriends wife. She acted like a good friend to me, who I helped out alot. i lend her my car babysat, her kids and defended her when her husband tried to lay a hand on her. When I found out that there was something going on btwn her and my man, My boyfriend begged me not to tell because of the husbands anger issues and his family members who would try to confront him. would you tell her husband? Need as many answers as I can get he believes I was Wrong For telling him

Answer 1

FIRST OFF YOUR HUSBAND IS AN ***hole for cheating on you and going to a married woman(we'll talk about her later)
second he's asking you not to tell? I mean really what an ***HOLE I say you did the right thing he just doesn't want to get his *** kicked It'll serve him right
and as for that ***** her husband needs to know what kind of a skank she is so like that he can kick her *** for you

NO BUT SERIOUSLY IF THEY HURT YOU WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO COVER FOR THEM THEY ARE BOTH TRASH!

Answer 2

First of all, in order to be a "mistress", the man has to be married. And since he is only your boyfriend, then she was just a one (or two, or three, or how ever many) night stand.

As for telling her husband, No I would not for a few reasons, mainly because he does have anger "issues", and he could do some serious harm to his wife, your boyfriend, or himself--then if (God forbids) someone loses their life over this predicament, then I would never be able to forgive myself.

Since you have already told him, all you can do now is wait and see what happens when the dust settles. Yes you were wrong for telling him, but you already knew that. That is why you are seeking justification to ease your conscience.

Answer 3

Of course your boyfriend desires the best of two worlds - one to have an affair with a married woman and two, to escape detection by asking you to keep it a secret. And he cheated on you too. Seems like he's cheated on just about all of you. This is one of those life decisions that has to be made on your end. I can see some sort of argument for handling it in different ways, but I'd be inclined....at least a little inclined....to not let the cheater walk away completely clean. He just doesn't seem to deserve a free ride. I just have a gut feeling (tell me I'm wrong!) that he'll probably do it all again with someone else and that he's not one to learn his lesson and change his ways.

Answer 4

If it were here husband that found out, would you want him to tell you? I know the immediate answer is yes....but think about it and come to the answer that you would actually want.
If it is yes, tell him, if you wouldn't want to know then don't tell him.
Personally, I would tell him. You're boyfriend or the mistress aren't sorry for the affair, just for geting caught. Don't want to pay, then don't play.
Oh, and I'd drop his sorry butt. He cheats now, he'll do it again.
Evidently marriage isn't too important to him if he's willing to cheat with a married woman.

Answer 5

Wrong of your husband in the first place. Might not have been the smartest thing to tell a man with hostility problems, but what's done is done.The bigger question is, do you want to stay with someone who's cheated on you and will he do it again. Personnally, if someone cheated on me, they're gone, no questions asked.I don't need the drama. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your issue is not with her. It is your husband. Keep her away from your house. If she asks why tell her you know. Leave it at that.

Answer 7

I would not have told the husband. What goes on between them is not my deal.
But I may have confronted her....

Answer 8

I would dump him and not say anything. If she cheated she will cheat again and she'll get caught.