what happens when you feel so insecure about your looks? and how can i start feeling secure?

Question

i'm always comparing my self to other girls because i wish that i can get the attention that they get from guys.

Answer 1

just be urself, that's what guys love best. i was insecure for the longest time, but then i thought what does it really matter if i'm not as skinny, beautiful, or smart as her? i'm me, and i'll find the perfect guy for me who loves me just the way i am. within a month of being confident, the guy i always wanted found me.

Answer 2

Hi M,
The real problem is not your looks. The problem is that most people live to support their egos. We all want to be loved and appreciated. Unfortunately, we live in a world where most people are extremely superficial. What I mean is that most of us are not in touch with our inner selves. This is a shame, because that is really where we live. That is where we feel our joy and our pain. I have known some very attractive people, who turned out to be very selfish and vain individuals. Because everybody kisses their fannies, they tend to not put much effort into personality development. For those who are not so physically attractive, the best shot is to have a good personality, which requires some work. Although it might be fun to have the boys drooling all over you for a while, it would be hard to find someone who even cares what is going on in your heart. Be patient. Not all of us can be stars. If you are lucky enough to find even one true and faithful love in your life, you are truly blessed. Many beautiful people never do.If you could look forward into the future, you might find that in the end, you will find more lasting happiness than your pretty friends.

Answer 3

I think everyone at one time or another has wished they looked like so and so..etc. it's natural. While you find beauty in others, one never tends to look for it in herself or himself- others however will find it in you as well. Just build up confidence in yourself, you can either do this by just going to the hairdressers for a trim or having a manicure. Also it's always the personality of a person that shines through and it is exactly this that has impact on someone. In fact, once you get to know someone or they know you better, they find a special and unique kind of beauty that only you have. This is where the true attraction lies in the end.

Answer 4

you should always just love yourself. We are all on the earth for a reason and the way we look should make no difference in life. its the way we are and we just can't change that, so we must all live with it, I am the same way, and always feel like i'm ugly, but i just tell myself that the right guy will come along for me. You wouyldn't even want a guy who is attracted to the kinds of girls that get all of the attention. Those kinds of girls take advantage of it all.

Answer 5

Don't be insecure sweetie, we come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. What woman lacks another woman has in excess and that's the way life goes. You have to find the things about you that are beautiful and love them. Comparing yourself to others, I've found, only increases your chances of becoming depressed. Because all you think about is what you don't have and what someone else does have. This is envy, and envy is evil. Appreciate the beauty around you, including your own. Trust me that the sexiest thing to the opposite is confidence. Be confident in your beauty and the boys will come....

Answer 6

Well.......in order to feel good about yourself you have to be confident in yourself. How do you do that? You start by speaking only positive things to yourself like, "I am Somebody" "I am a Winner","I am a Over comer"and so on, then,start doing something nice for yourself everyday. Read books on how to have a positive self image or something along those lines. Dress with care. Wear attractive clothes. If you wear eyeglasses, go and get some contacts. Above all do anything you can to improve yourself without sacrificing who you really are. Always be who you are cause faking it ain't going to get you anywhere. To thine own self be true!
Walk with confidence and you will get noticed. Guys will be attracted to girls who appear to have it all together(even if you don't feel it inside). Start by working on the things that I suggested and in no time you'll have someone interested in you. Good Luck!

Answer 7

First stop comparing yourself, there is only one of you on this earth, which by the way make you special just in it's self. I'm telling you this as a man, insecure is a man thing and basically most of us are scared sh#tless of woman. I think it is a rejection thing! Anyway, start the conversation, it's as easy as that. all we want is someone to love, hell my wife she most knocked my head off in that first conversation and we were married two weeks later. Thirteen years now and forever.

Answer 8

Don't compare yourself to others, it's a bad habit. Be aware of the dialog inside your head and anytime you find yourself comparing , stop and tell yourself how wonderful you are.

Get good grades, join a team, whether it be sports or academic.

Start exercising or volunteering, do things that build your confidence or make you feel good about who you are and what you do.

Answer 9

#1 when you feel insecure about your looks it shows -its what you portray to the world. #2 start giving off the air of confidence(whether faked or real) people will notice and want to know you. eventually you'll get the results you want.(attention from guys)good luck-start now!!!

Answer 10

Realize that the popular boys are not the only boys. Realize that there will always be those more and less attractive than yourself.

Be glad that you are healthy, enjoy the body you were born with. It is the confidence that people are attracted to anyway.