Confused...About myself?

Question

Alright.. I'm the nice, quiet girl. Maybe I'm just not really used to getting in fights. I think I get mad at stupid things. (Example: I hate to be ignored.. They ignore me I get angry. (I feel kinda Attention..>.> Well you know.) This one is kinda ironic I guess.. I get angry when people assume I am angry.)
I joke alot. I don't explain myself sometimes(Well most of the time). They think I'm mad..Then I get mad... Then the relationship gets kinda weird... Akward you could say ..and then it stops... (The Relationship stops) I think that sometimes I only get mad, because .. I think they have gotten too close to me. I think that, I'm a horrible person, everyone gets angry with me. I'm just wondering Am I? What should I do? I hope this wasn't too Confusing for anyone... If I need to explain more please tell me.

Whoa.. So many replys so Fast .. Lol I didn't expect it. Well .. I'm not like, I'm here! I demand the floor! But I'm very Quiet. I Don't talk much and When I do I like to be heard. (I was ignored most of the time When I was little, And I'm just trying to stop that) I don't know about the Anger management... When I get mad all, I just won't speak.. Or try my best not to.. I rather just be left to myself But Maybe I do need it. I'm very surprized that some of you could get so much out of a small sample.

Answer 1

honey u need help and auntie danys is gonna help u out right now. u need to let things go, loosen up, stop sweatin the small stuff so much, ya so what u dont like a few things who cares ( u do way too much) tuffen up some. dont be so nice. stand for what u believe in, u need some self confidence so go look in ur mirror right now..go ahead ill wait..and say "i am me, and thats all i can be, im funny, im sad, and im tired of ppl thinkin im mad, from this point on i will be strong, why? bc i am me, and thts all i can be". kiss the mirror. now see u did that now believe it. dont sweat the lil things ..ur young u should have fun, dont take no crap, u shouldnt have to. yet just shake things off when they get on ur nerves see they know they r doin it, and for those who ignore u who needs em they arent worth YOUR time. so dont pay em any attention ..

Answer 2

ok, first stop worrying about what others think ( to a certain extent), if that person does not like who u are then they or u need to move on. Your are who you are and u can't help that, but there are things that u can do to help others like u more. If u r getting angry, say "i need a break, now and i will talk to u in a few," and if they can't except that to bad for them. There are many ways to help calm your self down, like for instance i use, walk away for a few min., calm down, get my senses back, and go back to the situation with a clear mind. And if u r worried that people are getting mad at u then just ask, "am i bugging u," is a simple inoffensive way to find out, plus there are some people who just can't handle things and if u r one of those things to them, let it be, who needs them.
One thing i have found to help me a lot! is, ask others; if u are bothering them, or a person they know that u know, and ask them if there is anything that u can improve on.
All in all, worry about yourself and what u can do, if people are angry at u, u can't change them, just u so ask, "ok, what can i do different."

Answer 3

Sounds like you are pretty normal to me, maybe you have a fear of getting too close to someone, and also are irritated easily, but there is nothing wrong with that, When the time comes to be with someone long time, it will come naturally and you will have little control over your feelings for them. That's how love is, and in time you will learn to be more patient and ignore stupidity, its all part of maturity, for now just go out, have fun and enjoy life.

Answer 4

OK, LETS SEE HERE. FIRST OF ALL, YOU TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY. NEXT, STOP BEING JUDGEMENTAL WHEN IT COMES TO WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE THINKING OR SAYING ABOUT YOU, REMEMBER, YOU CAN'T READ THE MINDS OF OTHERS. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A GUILT COMPLEX COMING FROM WITHIN. NOBODY LIKES REJECTION,THEREFORE YOU FEEL LIKE IF THEY GET TOO CLOSE TO YOU, THEY WILL FIND OUT WHAT YOU ARE REALLY LIKE. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CHANGE THE WAY YOU BEHAVE, THE WAY YOU ACT OR REACT TOWARDS YOUR FRIENDS, YOUR RELATIONSHIP. IF IT GETS WEIRD, IT'S BECAUSE OF THE VIBES YOU ARE SENDING OUT. A COUPLE MUST BE IN SYNC IN ORDER TO FUNCTION AS A COUPLE. THAT MEANS EQUALITY FROM BOTH IN MATTERS OF THE HEART, COMMON LIKES AND DISLIKES, AND MUTUAL RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER. YOUR ANGER COMES FROM DISATISFACTION OF YOUR OWN ABILITY TO COMMUNICATE CLEARLY THE MANNER OF MOOD YOU ARE IN. ANGER, IN ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM, NEVER SOLVED ANYTHING, IT JUST MAKES IT WORSE. DON'T EVER FEEL ASHAMED WHEN YOU HAVE TO APPOLOGIZE FOR SOMETHING YOU KNOW OFFENDED SOMEONE. THEY WILL PRAISE YOU FOR BEING AN ADULT AND NOT ACTING LIKE A SPOILED KID. GROW UP. MATURE WISELY, AND YOUR FRIENDS WILL BECOME CLOSER TO YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE PLEASANT TO BE AROUND WITH. YOU'RE NOT HORRIBLE, BUT YOU DO HAVE SOME ADJUSTMENTS TO MAKE WITH YOUR ATTITUDES.

Answer 5

if you could raise your self esteem and self worth so you feel good about who/what you are ALL THE TIME, then you won't be compelled to 'get mad' when a challenging situation occurs - unless the situation requires you anger. i'd look into stuff like self esteem, self respect, self worth, emotional/mental health, 12 step anonymous groups and other behavioral/psycological aids to see what can be learned to subdue the angers and increase the 'i'm okays'. once you begin to like and appreciate your self, those defenses like anger will disolve away and you will be a much happier, less angry person for the effort.

Answer 6

i have a friend that is similar to you.... yes I got into fights with her sometimes (not phisical fights)... she makes jokes that are not jokes most of the time, but I got used to her. I try to be a good friend and I try to understand her as confusing as she may be.

Tell you what. You need a good friend who can understand you and who can help you with this... I guess I may call it problem. Then, maybe just maybe you'll succeed in life.

If you want, contact me sometime and we'll chat.

Answer 7

You sound like my wife. She doesn't speak unless spoken to and people think that she is a mean person. You pass by her and you will get silence. No hi, no good by, nothing. It's a wonder how I even met her. Once you get to know her she becomes your best friend in the world. Be patient with people and they will come around. Your just misunderstood by people.

Answer 8

you are not a horrible person just relax pay no mind to those who acusse you i am the same way. but when that happens i lie down in the bed or do something that you can enjoy. you dont need to explain no more its ok. you have to meet others people also who understand you. if you are feel ignored just do something that not only you have attention but others too.

Answer 9

You expect others to do your bidding....that's wrong...
Don't take life so seriously...
Be confident in yourself but not to the "ME SYNDROME"
Just be yourself and don't expect so much attention.
Attention will come by itself when you accept others as they
accept you. They have feelings just as you do.

Answer 10

Work on your communication skills, the rest will all fall into place.