iam 22 he is 23 we have 1 child and 1 on the way i have been with him going on 7 years?

Question

he talks about marriage but does litle to make it happen whats up

Answer 1

My husband and I have been together for 14 years and married for one and we have three children together (13, 6 & 1). Just be patient and if you are meant to get married, you will. He may not be ready for the commitment that marriage implies even though in every other way, the two of you are already living as husband and wife. The "M" word scares some men . . . don't worry and everything will turn out just the way it is meant to be.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You are handy, and much better than a round with "Miss Right" (or "Miss Left") but he is keeping his options open. When he does find the girl of his dreams, or get tired of reading to the kids after dinner, he'll leave you. He'll probably go to another state so he won't have to pay child support. You'll be trying to raise two children on your AFDC check and find another man. Most men won't want to bother with two kids that aren't theirs.

Sorry. Life sucks. There is a reason for marriage.

Answer 3

maybe he is waiting for the child to come. or maybe he is worried about the new costs .you will never know unless you talk to him.maybe he is already in a family life so a wedding is just a costly party for him. tell him that a wedding is very important to you. it will give your child , you ,and your relationship a legal identity. make him understand .men sometimes dont get the importance of a wedding. they think that if they love someone it is enough. but they have to give their love and their offsprings a social status. only a marriage certificate will achieve that.sit with him and make him understand.

Answer 4

Sounds like you two need to have a heart to heart talk. Trust and open communications are the key. So he may be a little afraid of the commitment thing. Just make sure that you're ready, don't want to get married to get divorced. Anyway, talk to him, and you'll have a better idea of what's going on. Best of luck......

Answer 5

Whats up is that he has everything already including children. Why would he need to go through the ceremony if hes go everything already. Not to mention he and you as well are pretty young. It may seem like you know it all now but trust me you don't.

Answer 6

I dont know maybe he is scared or maybe he want to keep his options open.
Marriage is tough and hard work and divorce is extremely costly...sometime over a hundreds of thousands of dollars.
I think you should get married though if you TRULY REALLY love each other.

Answer 7

well u guys are already playing house and marriage....so whats the rush for some paper to make it official....marriage isnt necessary to make a family happy....and if u press the issue then he prob wont ever get to it....just be happy with what u have...cuz most ppl would kill for it.....

Answer 8

buy some wedding books, get some prices from cake shops, dress shops etc etc leave them lying around and wait for his response, if money is a problem go to the nearest registry office get the app form and info leaflets and see what he says to them.

Answer 9

He would be the one that needs to answer that question. If you want to get married, let him know. Ask him WHEN he is going to make it happen. If he keeps putting you off, then he really doesn't want to get married...

Answer 10

He is afraid of getting married. Why dont you convince him that nothing will change when you get married except for the fact that you will be setting a GOOD exsample for your children...