If your partner no longer interested you, but you were still together because of children or other reasons, would you stand in the way of him or her finding happiness with someone else?
2006-07-08 08:44:45 · 25 answers · asked by Paul R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the relationship is completely dead with no chance of a reconciliation, then no, I wouldn't stand in the way of my partner finding happiness - so long as she doesn't stand in my way of finding happiness either.
If anything, it should have a good effect on the children, as they will be in a happier environment as opposed to an uncomfortable, frosty environment.
As far as the children are concerned you both are still parents to them and as long as you both support your children and show your love for them can can eventually adapt to the new way of life.
I am, of course, assuming that you won't be living under the same roof if things work out between your partner and her new fella, as that would be very unhealthy for all concerned. Despite living under different roofs it is important for you both to maintain access to the children so you can both still provide a happy upbringing for them.
If she's out finding happiness with someone new, it's probably best that you did the same too
Hope everything works out for the best for all of you.
2006-07-08 09:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would let him/her go! I've learned the hard way over the last 5 years that if one of the people in the relationship doesn't have feeling for the other any more but they try to keep it together for the kids it will never work. It's hard to let that person go I know that for a fact but I also know it's better for everyone involved including the kids if they go their separate ways. If the parents aren't happy in their relationship then you can count on the kids not being happy. Even if you don't fight in front of the kids or talk about your situation they know whats going on and it is stressful for them too. It may take a while for them to get use to seeing mom or dad less often and going to a different house for the weekend but they will get use to it and you will see that their attitude may change to once they see that mom and dad are happy again. I hope that whatever you choose to do you can still be friends with the other person at least for the kids sake. Good luck to you!
2006-07-08 10:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by ~Amanda~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is what would you do if a divorce and the children weren't a factor then what. Those are just excuses in my opinion if there is no adultery or abuse. You are married how are you standing in the way. I feel bad about your situation but take action get to know each other all over again renew your vows. Something new needs to be done one the inside of both of you, true happiness is not in marriage, divorce, or being single its in you.
2006-07-08 09:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's world, with mortgages and high debt, I can understand why couples stay together, personally if you can get along as friends, I would stay together, just until the kids were old enough, allowing each of you to have another partner, away from the kids that is. Some people are so quick to judge others, you have to do what is best for you and your family.
2006-07-09 04:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... because their heart is not in the marriage or with you, the same, but that does not mean to say that his or her heart lies with someone else at this point in time. Its better to face up to the fact that you both can hinder each other any chance of you and your spouse both finding love and happiness elsewhere by staying in a loveless marriage and not setting each other free.
Sometimes its very hard to let go of someone we love even if they are no longer in love with us the same, its a bitter pill to swallow, but that's life and not all marriages are meant to last. Staying for the children's sake or other reasons is no excuse for anyone to stay in a place where they feel they want to be. Financial support, parental support etc can continue outwith the marriage.
2006-07-08 13:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be with him just for the kids. If you are together, you don't go looking elsewhere. If either of you is no longer interested in the other, you should split up and after that, no I wouldn't stand in the way.
2006-07-08 23:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Evil J.Twin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...why life is too short and besides their could be someone really amazing out there waiting for you!
I understand how you feel, really I do. Only for me its the other way around, I wish my partner would want someone else!
I want out and it is hard as I am a SAHM with no real money paying job.
I think you should go to a mediator or lawyer and go from there.
2006-07-08 08:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by DEEDEE Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your partner actually told you that she is no longer interested? All relationships have ups and downs. Sometimes the grass seems greener but it isn't usually. It's important to try and make things work before you give up.
2006-07-08 11:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Breadh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the children will grow older and leave for a life with there chosen one as a adult you will hope for there success, if you sure you can not fulfil your partner any further then take the chance of a new life on your own,it's not a easy task to undertake and can be very lonely
2006-07-08 08:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by angie n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stay for the kids? That's the stupidest excuse people use to keep someone somewhere they don't want to be. Divorce him and BOTH of you go find someone to be happy with. Teach your kids to be strong people who don't have to stay in unhealthy relationships.
2006-07-08 08:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by wakalualua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋