I want to leave however as a stay at home mom for the last 2 years I have no income as I was home taking care of the kid. I said I was leaving and he is worried that I will be taking some stuff that we had bought while we lived together, he thinks I am going to take half of what the house is worth or what he paid into it while we were together I told I wouldnt and I was going to take the second vehicle,bed and computer. I dont understand why he is so scared if I left. I wont stop him from seeing our kid and I only asked for child supoort as he makes over 100 grand a year.
I am confused and tired of him.
2006-07-08 08:44:27 · 7 answers · asked by DEEDEE Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants the relationship to work, but I am tired of him, I dont like him, I hate having sex with him anymore, and I am not attracted to him anymore.
I just want out...and when I tell him that he thinks I am cheating or have someone waiting, which I dont!
I cant stand him anymore!
I have felt this way for a long time.
I dont know what to do as I was a SAHM while living with him, I have no money, any ideas/
I have a friend who would probably let me stay with him for a while but not forever.
2006-07-08 08:56:30 · update #1
You need to do what is best for your baby and yourself. If there is nothing there then there is nothing there. No reason to stay around. You can get child support for your child and you can find a job and have friends and family help you out in this time of need until you get steady on your feet.
Hope this helps~
2006-07-11 18:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like you two are at a break point where life is in a rutt and the main thing holding you two together is the chils. That is a lot of stress for the child. Take the time to look for help from family or the government in getting financial help to move out. Every state offers help for single mothers. If you want to leave, find a job and bust you butt to provide for yourself, your child and your new life. It is rough but many do it every day and make it work.
From experience, if the signs are there that you are cheating, a man will call you on it even though he knows deep down he knows you would not . But like my ex, I knew it was a hot button and would get an reaction and an emotional reaction even though mean spirited is wrong, it is an reaction. It sounds like he is just trying to get an reaction from you because there is no emotion in the home. If people knew that when you accuse someone of cheating and you know they are not, if they only knew how degrading it is to that person and how much it lowers their esteem and just destroys the realtionship.
Maybe counsiling could help. If you cant afford it, contact your local church that you both agree on and they offer free help. Althuogh you may not be religious, the basis of all relationship is based on faith, trust and love, as in all religions.
2006-07-08 16:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Charles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you really CAN NOT move in with some male friend. It just ain't right
Second you are entitled to half of all the stuff the two of you have gotten in the last 3 years although not necessarily legally.
Third how do you know that you will be awarded custody? You may end up having to pay him child support.
Lastly go back to doing what you were doing before you met him surly you had a job then.
2006-07-08 16:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by mike53153 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain legalities here. Being married, you would
have been able to stay and keep the house with your child,
get child support, and alimony. But, since your not married.
It all depends on who's name is on the mortgage, car,etc.
PLAN AHEAD.
2006-07-08 16:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take everything you want.... you deserve it. Guys often think that because you don't actually have a paying "job" that everything they paid for is theirs. Not true... staying home with your kid(s) is so much harder work than any 8 hour job. Good luck:)
2006-07-08 15:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave and be happy with your baby. He shouldnt be scared, maybe he just wants the relationship to work, has he told you that?
2006-07-08 15:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by estefany v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what is best for the kid. you are a mother, think of your child. go to a councellor.or to a sex therapist. take your bf with you. think of your child. wont he/she miss his/her father?
2006-07-08 16:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋