ok!The other day when I was brisk-walking I saw a Japanese couple holding hands and walking right opposite me.We greeted each other.I knew that my lazy honey was still sleeping when I had rung the dooorbell 10-12 times and no sooner had I realized that I have to jog alone I saw these young birds and asked how were they?And they gave the same the same yet powerful posture reflecting their contentment and peace they recieved through marriage.They are old,no kids,no pre-nups,adoption and yet they manage to satisfy themselves.And the husband already suffers from severe chronic pain and the wife's left arm is broken(replaced with an artificial one) and has already lost her ability to hear or speak properly.And the society is famous for boasting their relationship and respects them a lot.They are such maniacs that they have even made an entire temple in the name of the couple's love as a symbol of love .And the funny thing is the maniacs consider it obligatory to renew vows inside the temple
2006-07-08 08:44:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's all about compromise...and wanting a relationship to work and MAKING it work. People are too self involved to make a relationship work.
2006-07-08 08:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know!!! I guess because it is a selfish world we live in, and marriage is about mutual give and take, not just take what you want when and where you want it. It takes two people of the same mindset who hopefully love each other.
With some people, it may look like they are doing everything right, but someone in the marriage feels dissatisfied at one time or another. They know they made a committment, so they work through it. I can understand why people admire that Japanese couple.
2006-07-08 09:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa Whoa Whoa. Ok, so why do you say your wife is lazy? Do you have kids?
Marriage is not easy, but it shouldn't be too hard. My God, half of the time its just that people won't let their partner be. Let them do their own thing, and don't make them live up to your expectation of what things should be.
Having children and taking care of them is hard. It does put strain on a relationship, but should ultimately make it stronger, then you can be exceptionally happy when there's no mess to clean up and so forth when they're gone. And you can look at you life with the satisfation of, hopefully, raising good upstanding children.
My little rant in return for yours!
2006-07-08 08:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in a free society that we live in noone is forced to marry, therefore there is no reason why should you marry someone you are not compatible with. Two easy going people will usually be happy together. It is about compromise and give and take as well as love and communication. Both will have to put up with each others imperfections. Therefore make sure the one you are marrying is very compatible to you and you are willing to put up with his/her shortcomings because you trully love them and because you know you can. Lots of people don't realize that marriage is about you/us not I/me. If you think of I/me you better stay single. Most people get married in the heat of flaming love and then they will find out it was just a big mistake. Take time to get to know the person give it a couple years. It is different to date someone and live with someone. Can you put up with his/her habits for the rest of your life the question should be.
2006-07-08 09:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by softbelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that those that have it *easy* have already discovered the secrets to marriage....such as totally surrendering to their partner, being able to know that that is the one person you can count on anytime for anything. The complete trust. So to answer your question, those that have it hard, in my opinion, its because one or both of them refuse to completely turn their souls over to the other, so they are making it hard on themselves. If you fully understand what goes into building a marriage it can appear easy, its hard work..but the rewards are ten fold.
2006-07-08 09:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your marriage is that hard, get out. Why people advocate staying in these unhappy unions because "till death do us part" is beyond me. When you are that unhappy in a relationship a part of you in a sense is dead. Get out, find someone who makes you happy and stop caring what everyone thinks. You only have 1 life.
2006-07-08 09:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by wakalualua 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Secret to a happy married life Any relationship is not just take and take and take its also give
2006-07-12 23:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for 22 years and it's been easy easy easy
2006-07-08 23:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by pig m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication and compromise. you have already made it through the hard part, the actual ceremony. now you must keep the communication open.
2006-07-08 08:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by LIL_AB13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only get something out of marriage if you put something into it.
2006-07-08 08:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋