2006-07-08 08:30:33 · 7 answers · asked by empress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you asked them why?
Its hard not to get involved when your parents divorce. You try not to pick sides. When my parents divorced I looked after my Mum and my Brother stayed close to my dad. We didn't talk about it but it seemed the natural way of doing it.
Right now it's important for you to get on with your life and let your children know you are there for them.
2006-07-08 08:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. Continue to be a good mother and have visitation. These things do change. Kids find out they made a mistake. They probably felt they could do whatever they wanted with their father and are not thinking about all the things a mother does for her children. Enjoy your few months off. Go to lectures, join a group with shared interests (www.craigslist.org lists groups) and be prepared to get one of them back in a few months. Also your ex is feeling triumphant right now, but most men have no idea how much work taking care of kids is and how stressful it is. Living well is the best revenge.
2006-07-08 09:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id have to know how old the children are first. In the divorce settlement do you have joint/full /or what kind of custody? Are you a fit mother,don't get mad I'm only asking,do you have an addiction problem? If he has custody then you have to pay him child support. Are the kids teens ,does daddy give them more freedom ,no supervision maybe that's the reason. Kids are not often ready to leave mother without a reason.
2006-07-08 08:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey empress-when my mum and dad divorced it was a sure fire answer that i was going to live with my mum, only because my dad was abusive, but my brother and sister both chose my dad which upset my mum so much. A few years later my sister moved back with us and so did my brother, kids take a while to figure out whats best for them, don't think you have done something wrong, just let things work out and take whatever happens on the head, if you were a good mum and love your kids then they'll see sense, much love x
2006-07-08 08:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by Stanley Dru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry love but things like this often happen it must be hard for you ,you was the one who gave birth to them i was in the same situation once, but you have to put the happiness of your kids first if they choose to be with there dad yes be sad but think of this you can go out have fun girly times with your mates,one day they will reailise and come back its all confusing for kids divorce but support what they decide then they cant blame you in years to come good luck chin up
2006-07-09 07:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept their decision and try to have an as good as possible relationship with them despite of that. If you make a fuss about it (esp. infront of them) they'll only loose respect because they feel you're not accepting their decision.
This is from the point of view from one of those kids though, i don't know what its like for you as parent, but i've come to hate my parents. I hope you wont make the same mistakes as my parents.
Good luck.
2006-07-08 08:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by wijnha01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them. He loves them too. Hopefully it was amicable and you can see them anytime. Good luck!
2006-07-08 09:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋