I need help my fiance's mom hates me with a passion she's evil and whenever hes goes to see her we always end up breaking up or fighting I don't know what to do! See we live together so if we break up I end up having to go stay other places till we get back together! Now whenever he goes to see her I always hate it and he gets mad at me because I get disgusted! His mom abandoned him his whole life till recently and I've always been there so it upsets me when he chooses to go see her over me and whenever she calls him it's always to go to this bar she hangs out at and to try to get him to cheat on me with her nasty a$$ friends! What should I do???????
2006-07-08 07:52:26 · 8 answers · asked by christysjosh_18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's in love with me and he tells me that she loves me too but he just doesn't see it like I do!
2006-07-08 08:53:56 · update #1
OK this person isn't exactly me it's my very best friend and she always asks me for advice on this subject and I really don't know what to tell her so I thought I'd ask all you wonderful people for help!
2006-07-10 02:38:10 · update #2
try talking to him about it to him without critisizing his mom been there done that not fun not easy he needs to realize for him self what shes doing ...pointing it out to him will only make him resent you but he needs to decide if you two are really going to be together and tell his mom to accept that your who he chooses to be with and to be polite after all our moms teach us if you cant say something nice...................
2006-07-08 08:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/q_and_a/inlaws.shtml
I don’t get on with my mother-in-law
I don't get on with my partner's mother, to the extent that I can't bear the thought of being in the same house with her. She's now threatening to come and stay. How am I going to cope?
Expert Paula Hall, Sexual and relationship psychotherapist replies
Paula Hall There are so many jokes about coping with mothers-in-law, it can be easy to forget than for many couples it’s no laughing matter. There’s no doubt some in-laws can be difficult to have around. In many cases, it’s the arguments they cause between a couple that are the real problem.
The important thing to agree with your partner is exactly what the boundaries are. Boundaries can be difficult to set with some in-laws, particularly if they insist on treating you both like children. But nonetheless, they must be set, especially if they’re in your house.
Sit down together and make a list of the issues. Then write the rules you'll need to set to avoid problems arising. For those problems you can't avoid, agree how you'll handle them together. Remember, your mother in-law may not particularly like you either, but for the sake of your partner, you can resolve not to fall out.
2006-07-08 08:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sancira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be...GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!! When "the other woman" in a relationship is his mother you can't win. The fact that he is willing to put everything she says first and that you guys fight over her shows that he is not ready for an adult relationship. If he loved you he wouldn't let her talk bad about you. He'd let her know fast that he won't stand for it...AT ALL. You haven't made the mistake of marrying him yet. If he's going to let her influence him...ditch him. You're worth more than that if he can't see that a better guy will.
2006-07-08 08:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to have a sit down conversation with your fiance. Be serious, but be sweet. Try not to yell, if you even do, cause i'm guilty of yelling to. Personally, my b/f's mom hates me i think and my mom hates my b/f so yeah. All we have is each other, but he still likes his mom. But anyway, Talk to your fiance and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Also, i'm christian and i don't know if he is, but the bible says forgive or God will never give you for your mistakes. I also agree with you about her taking him to bars so he can cheat on you, that's a pathetic thing to do. And i think that not only does he HAVE to talk to his mom and refuse to go, but also get you to talk with her also. Like you, him, and her have a conversation together. But don't suggest talking to her until you've talked to him about it. Good luck, and in someway, i feel for you.
2006-07-08 08:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would B I T C H slap him and his mother. He is the one who should leave when you fight not you. Next time come and stay with me. I thought you lived alone ??? It is important that we be honest with each other .
2006-07-08 12:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you have a boyfriend and a mom it is trouble!! Good luck with the mommies boy!!
2006-07-08 07:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go with him to his mothers house and when he come home don't ask him questions like ''did she say anything about me''or anything let him go and you do something else that day go to your family house.
2006-07-08 12:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by yoyoluv27910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her eat a poisoned fig.
2006-07-08 07:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Alyx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋