my friend has been dating and living with a married man for the past two years..his family live in a different country and he goes to visit sometimes but they do not know about his other life ... she has asked me what to do and i dont know what to say .... any advice?
2006-07-08 07:44:34 · 17 answers · asked by whoami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her that she is your friend and that you will always love her but you rather not have any comment about the situation because it is something that you don't believe in. Tell her that you can talk to her about everything else but talking about her relationship makes you very uncomfortable. Be there for her through this time because it sounds like it is headed for heartbreak. Keep your comments to a minimum because she is going to do what she wants regardless. I have a friend like this too and I tell her that she really don't want to hear what I think. When she presses for an answer, I just tell her it is something that I wouldn't do and leave it at that.
2006-07-08 08:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First as a married woman who has been in this situation, it hurts a lot more to know that the woman knows about you. The fact that they knew and pursued the man is a serious kick in the gut.
Second, as the friend, your girlfriend already knowsthat this is not right that is why she is asking you. She simply wants you to answer the question for her. She wants you to reassure her that what she is doing is fine. After all you are her friend. But, honey part of being a friend is telling the truth noo matter what the outcome is. Somtimes the truth hurts. What she needs to do is leaqve this man alone, let him focus on his family. Actually he is cheating on her as well. She will never fully have the man unless he divorces his wife. There are so many unattached single men out there that can give her the moon and stars so ask her why she is settling for the algae in the bottom of the ocean. Get out of there and meet someone new.
2006-07-08 08:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by lashenica j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your chum no remember what. She is an adult and makes her personal judgements no matter if or not they don't look to be the most ideal. I understand what you propose. once you pick to be in a relationship like that, you should anticipate that there'll be distinctive drama and assorted lonely nights. My chum and that i have been BF considering seventh grade 365 days. we do not always agree and in many circumstances we received't artwork it out, so we comply with disagree. perchance y'all pick to too. purely let her understand you do not quite approve or her relationship with a married guy so in destiny, you only received't talk about that particular section. let her understand that you imagine she is making a huge mistake and leaving herself open to get damage. Be forewarned that she will be in a position to likely compared to this and it is going to placed a rigidity or your relationship. you should change right into a lot less of a chum than you're because she will be in a position to turn to others who nevertheless enable her to cry on their shoulders.
2016-11-30 21:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by whipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get some self-respect and morals and leave him.
He's married, he's off-limits. Tell her to go find her own guy and get married and then tell him he's allowed to cheat on her after she has kids. Maybe that way she can understand the pain, and utter wrongness of what she is doing.
Just because a guy is a total loser and willing to cheat on his wife, doesn't give her the right to go along with it.
2006-07-08 07:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend shouldn't put you in that position. She wants you to say what she wants to hear,and if you don't tell her that she will be angry. .She knows its wrong and so do you but she is fooling herself,in the long run he will either not come back from seeing his wife or he will move on to the next foolish women that will be with him.
2006-07-08 08:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to move on and stop waisting her time with a married man,
tell her to find someone who is not married, and able to commit to her and only her
2006-07-08 07:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get the heck away from him and find one that is not already taken. He is using the heck out of her. If he has not left his wife by now, he is not going to. And lets say that he ever did leave his wife ( which he is not going to) he will cheat on her as well. She just needs to get away from him all together!!!
And his wife could find out about him and her IF you know what I mean????????
2006-07-08 08:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he is MARRIED should be enough. She needs to break up with him! He has a wife doesn't she care that he has another woman and she is just one on the side! Break up with him ASAP!
2006-07-08 07:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married=TAKEN Tell your friend to move on plus messing with another womans husband can be very deadly! Homewreckers dont make great company....Find her own man to make her husband!
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2006-07-08 07:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by www.twiztedvanilladevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him! Being named as the other woman in a divorce case isn't nice! Also, can his wife take your friend?
2006-07-08 07:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋