Why do men ignore women if the subject isn't important to them? Why can't they just listen for once??

Question

My husband and I live together in a 4 bdr/3b home in Apollo Beach, Florida. We try to spend as much time as possible with our 2 children, when I wind down from the day I like to talk everything over that happend that particular day. My husband in the middle of me speaking always says WELL or does hand gestures and doesn't want to hear me talk, well naturally it pisses me off big time and I just want to knock him out BUT DON'T. What can I do besides summarrizing the conversation without him doing that to me.? I think it is totally rude and don't know how to go about speaking to him because he never want s to hear it.....
Please help me rosolve this matter with him it is very important to me because I love him and I know he loves me but, sometimes I don't think he realizes he's doing it...please give me as many ponters as possible I will take any opions from anyone---throw them at me.. you can also email it to me at [e-mail]

Answer 1

Maybe has something on his mind too?.. But, I feel that man are
strange creatures. Try talking to him when there are less
distractions, so he has no other option, but to listen to you. And
speak with him in an even tone, and explain to him that you need
him to communicate with you. Explain that it is an important
issue. He may get it, and try to change. But, if he doesn't,
Perhaps you should just be grateful for what you DO have and
not what you don't have. So, if you have a man who is going to
be uncooperative, and you have tried everything you know...
Either you can accept his behavior or don't, and make some
kind of decision for yourself. Find other people to talk to about
your feelings. At least that will help you feel better about YOU.
There are many women who would love to have your lifestyle.
Living in FL., a house, with kids a husband, etc. etc. You need
to make yourself happy, get a hobby you enjoy, etc. Then may-
be you won't be as dependent on him, for your emotional needs.
That is my advice. Or, you can divorce. Weigh your options
carefully. It could be worse, ya know?...I don't think people can
have everything.....Life has many lessons we need to learn.

Answer 2

From a happily married 38yr old guy: We are wired different. Take shopping for instance, girl goes in and spends hours without buying anything, guy goes in buys what he needs and is out within 5 minutes. Men comunicate on a more primal level than women do, it has nothing to do with the fact of whether or not he loves you. Straight to the point, no signals, no reading between the lines. That's just how we think. Let me ask you a question...Do your eyes glaze over when he is talking about football, golf, or whatever he is into that you have no interest in?
I would suggest asking him your yahoo question verses us, he should be able to give you the best answer if he doesn't have to worry about hurting your feelings by answering. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Maybe instead of starting off by talking about everything that happened to you during the day you should ask him first how his day was. After he starts telling you about something you could then sneak in a little...."Oh that reminds me of this that happened today" or something along those lines. Hey maybe soon he'll ask you how your day was first. Just remember, after a long day, your not only tired but he is too. Oh yes, and if you are trying to talk to him while the children are around that could be overwhelming for him too especially if they are playing loud.

Answer 4

I just think they don't want to be "talked down to". Almost like they think they know everything. Or they hate when they're proved wrong.

Answer 5

men always do that crap... you tell me what we can do when you figure it all out ok? lol.. my dad does that to us kids even..i dont know....