How do we deal with children from broken homes ?

Question

l am training some kids in badminton from an ashram near my place whom having some trouble with their caretakers as well. They have talked to me about some supervisors have used abusive words and canning punishment too. l am very sad to learn this and can't find a way to help them more.l know this kids needs more love and extra attention in every aspect. With me they are doing well , both games and attitude.please help.

Answer 1

Call the police or email me and i will for you. This can not happen

Answer 2

You are morally and legally under obligation to deal with these allegations immediately.

First step would be to remove children from the care of those they accused of verbal/physical abuse, contact the Police (Domestic unit) and tell them what is happening.

The children will be interviewed as they should be, so will caretakers. What's to follow will follow.

Should you keep these allegations to yourself and not act upon them immediately, you would make yourself an accomplice in the sense that you would be aiding and abetting those caretaker, in the eyes of the law and surely! Your own eyes as well as you talk about an ashram and your religion does not condone this kind of abuse either.

Answer 3

be reeeeeeeeal careful here - you mentioned the kids are from an ashram near your place but that they come from broken homes. you mention caretakers, but then problems with supervisors.

what problems are they having with their caregivers?

how well behaved are these kids? are they troublemakers who know what buttons to push to get a response? what's the definition of an abusive word?

i'm not condoning anything here. i'm just saying be very careful about your definitions of abuse before you start a potential upheaval which might not do any good for anyone, including the kids you want to help.

Answer 4

There's no easy answer for this and you alone can't solve their problems but you can certainly make things a little better for them by showing them you care. It's amazing how much a smile and a hug (if that is considered appropriate) can do for children.

One mistake people often make when trying to help is that they let the kids get away with everything they want. Sometimes they need rules and you should be firm and yet kind. I'm not saying you should be stickt and yell orders at them but make sure they know who's in charge and that you care for them and want to help them. Good luck

Answer 5

Your question " Deal with children from broken homes " i find that most offencive... Children are children ..it dont matter where they have came from .
Some children from "Normal" homes can be just as abusive .
Im from a broken home ..But i knew respect and when to give it.
Today we seam pander to every Childs wim and wimper.
As a Father of 4 with a 18 y/o daughter at Cambridge Uni i think i have a good insight into children.
All i say is ..stand back a mo and let the kids help them selves.Let them use there brains , Ask them , listen but dont pander.

Answer 6

Be a rock in their river of life, someone they can count on being there when the rapids get to tough.

If they are in abusive situations report it to the proper authorities. If they are out spoken enough to tell you, then that is a cry for help and you have to report it.

Answer 7

get them into counseling. Try to make sure that you and the other parent can have a friendly relationship. Ask them question how can you better make them feel, or how they feel about the situation. Make them understand it is not their fault that mommy and daddy separated and that you both love them. Never, never, never talk bad about the other parent.

Answer 8

Talk to Social Services and let them know of your concerns.

Answer 9

Research says that a resilient child only needs one caring/significant adult in their life. Perhaps you are doing enough. Only time will tell.

Answer 10

Report them!