Please HELP?

Question

I posted a story yesterday, if you haven't read it go read it before you read this, well now my mom says i can't go out with him because he's 18. And like 5 months ago his mom called my mom and was talking to her about roy and said that he was lying alot and he needed to talk to a psychiatrist. He went and everything is good. So my sister lied about him doing drugs and she went and told my mom that he hits me which he doesn't. And this makes me so mad because She keeps lying but my mom is so focused on roy because she never liked him that she's not noticing the truth. It's hurting so much, and i really do love him, truthfully. I'll be going to college to take some courses in my senior year because i'm ahead, i'm very mature. I know it sounds stupid because i'm 15 but i'm way more mature than my 24 year old sister. Please help me, i need some advice on what to say to my mom. Thanks

kay, Well i just thought i'd let yall that my other sister liz will be talking to my mom for me. And i'm not comparing myself to my sister really. My sister, the one i'm upset with, does things my mom ask's her not to do, has been on drug multiple times, sold drugs multiple times,smoked weed with my brother when she was told NOT to bring it around any of us, and Buys cigarettes for my brother, which my parents do not know about.

Another thing, My mom was 16 when she ran away from home and lived with her aunt. She got married 4 times and has 4 kids including me. she is still married to my dad of 16 years but they fight all the time. Recently they just started reconciling so yeah, their all lovey dovey now. But yeah, please hear me out. I'm misearable and my sister is getting away with her lies, and never even had the courtesy to tell me she was sorry for lying to me. By the way the mean sister is named Nicole.

Also, only my mom and nicole want us break up.

Answer 1

First of all, realize she is your mom and that even though you are more mature than 15 that there are laws regarding her being in charge of you. You gain much more bees with honey than with lemons so approach her and speak to her as an adult. Don't accuse her or tell her that what she is doing is making you mad or whatever. Just sit down and tell her that you feel mature enough to come and tell her the way you feel about Roy and that as an adult she should listen to you and respect your feelings since you are no longer a small child.
Then after you have told her your feelings, hear her out. Ask her what she thinks and WHY she thinks that..Have people been misleading her? Does she just gather from her own judgement?
Realize that the decisions you make now will affect you forever.
I was 17 when I moved out to live with my boyfriend and we have now been together for 6 years. I am white and he is Mexican so my mom hated him at first. As time went on she realized that he wasn't so bad and we've been married for two years now and the relationship couldn't be better. The best thing I did though was always keeping my cool with my mom. She made me so mad when she didn't listen but now I understand where she was coming from.
Good Luck with it, and realize that you won't always be under 18 so things will get better.

Answer 2

Whether you love him or not, this sounds like a mess. A mess that's so screwed up and twisted, the only way out is to not be in it. Your sis doesn't like him. His mom is concerned too. EVERYONE around you is acting funny, including him (see psychiatrist part).

So why? If you're very mature, you should see that everyone's behavior is stupid and not going to change. Think about this. Is this going to be a good relationship? Do you think that the two of you can be together happily if everyone around you is fighting the relationship? Do you think you'll be happy if the man you love is not liked by your family? Do you think you'll be happy as your family treats you like crap because they thing you're doing something wrong?

Maybe they're upset because you're smart and mature. They're afraid you'll get screwed up by him and your future won't seem as bright. Afterall, you are 15 and there's A LOT of really really cool **** ahead of you in life. That's probably why they are worried. It's also why you should be worried too.

Answer 3

You are too young for this guy and this format! Start playing sports or do some other meaningful activity that will help you can prospective on why this is an unhealthy relationship for you. STOP comparing yourself to your sister! You are two different people and she is entitled to her opinion! If I was your mother I would send you to a relatives house to get you away from this child molester. Your relationship is not even legal in most states. Stop trying to grow up so fast and enjoy your summer. Do you have any other friends besides ROY? I think you owe your mother an apology!

Answer 4

Dont get caught up in this situation your 15.Go to college when your eighteen , then turn 21 and go have a beer & party with your friends in the clubs/bars meet lots of people first to see what you truly want then maybe get caught up in something. Until then just relax and live life. Believe me i am mature for my age now as I was when I was 15. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WORRY ABOUT ALL THAT DRAMA. Blood is thicker then water trust your mom she will be there for you longer and stronger then he will ever be PERIOD!!

Answer 5

You have to learn that you need to pick your battles. You are 15 trying to date someone who is 18. Not only is that illegal in every state in the country, it shows that he is immature.

If you insist on dating him, be prepared for the consiquences. Getting kicked out by your mom, etc.

My suggestion? Focus on school, and get a future. Guys will come and go, but you will only have one shot at your future. If you're as bright as you claim, then this should be a "no brainer" for you.

Answer 6

Tell her that you are her daughter and she should trust you. That you wouldn´t lie about that, and you know that he´s a nice guy and he doesn´t do that. Let her know that your sister doesn´t know what goes on, she´s making things up, and that you are controlling your life and you know good from bad and tell her not to worry. Don´t forget to add that you love her. hehe.


Good luck!!!!!

Answer 7

if you really like this guy you wont date him until you're older, he can get in serious trouble being with a minor now that he is 18.