I was seeing this girl for about 3 months , i fell in love with her, we got along well, until a few days ago, I was in AOL chat with her under another name and talked to her as some one else, because i suspected she lied to me, but she didn't any how i sent her an email shortly after we chat while i was some one else, she got furious, but said she knew it was me, she said i violated her, which i agree, she said there is nothing left she can't trust me any more, and said to forget i ever knew her, the next day she Instant message me in AOL around 4:00 am and ask me to come over, we talked a bit but she fell asleep during our talk, later the next day she still says she don't want any more drama in her life and she don't call me any more or answer my calls, she did say in a message she needs time to think, how ever I'm not sure that is true, any how, I love this woman so much with all my heart, and can't convince her she can trust me I'll never do it again,
What can i do? HELP ME!
2006-07-08 06:49:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well she did break up, she won't answer my calls, but talks to me over chat just briefly, tells me she don't want any drama in her life any more, and didn't have any boyfriends because of that, i need to convince her she can trust me again, because she can i would never do that stupid **** again, how ever how can i show her my heart and let he be sure of that?
2006-07-08 06:53:13 · update #1
Being dumped is not nice, but it's a fact of life. Virtually everyone gets dumped at some stage, and whilst it hurts, it is a normal part of growing up.
If you are dumped, then first try to understand why you were dumped - did you do anything "wrong" that you can learn to correct, or was it one of those 'drifting apart' things.
The key is not to feel bad about yourself - tell yourself it is their loss not yours and you are a great person.
Try not to let your confidence get knocked. Continue doing all your other activities as before that did not involve that person and stay busy.
Do not be tempted to pine for them or try to get them to change their mind. Use your energy in a positive way to get on with your life.
Hope this helps~ Contact me if you need anything else~
2006-07-22 03:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your own distrust of her brought this on. If you felt you had to trick her to find out if you could trust her why in the world would you expect her to get over it. Now she cannot trust you.
Trust is a very basic principal of a relationship. If you have reason to not trust them by all means go directly to that person and confront them. What you did was devious, not with good forethought, and totally untrustworthy.
There are very few women that could ever forgive that. If she did that to you would you feel that was just fine? I would hope not.
Because you have blown away the trust she had, you are out.
Give it up, remember this, and move on. She could never trust you again and that is horrible for a relationship.
2006-07-08 14:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like she is really upset but for no big reason - ask her what is really bothering her. also, while talking, ask her how she feels about you. if she doesn't feel the same way you feel about her, you don't belong together. another problems that can come up is that she is 1) afraid of serious relationships or 2) does not want to be dumped so does it first.
in any case, find out the underlying reasons for her behavior
2006-07-08 14:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by answer4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel then give her some space.You don't want to smother her if you do she will move further away from you, It will take time for you to earn her trust again.Then if you are meant to be together it will happen.
2006-07-08 14:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? By your question and explanation I think you are too young to be stuck on one person, but in any case, these are games you are both playing. If she does not want to be with you, why would you want to be with her? Move on.
2006-07-08 13:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you have to love yourself and you dont seem to...anyone that has to go to such length as you did...is not very self confident i hate to say it so bluntly but if i was her i'd let you go.... you could turn into a stalker...get some help
2006-07-08 13:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bang her best freind,...works everytime
2006-07-08 14:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Simms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some space.
2006-07-08 14:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by kavla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋