I had two friends that were living with me wail they found a house. Well, they found a house a week ago, and thats when all kinds of crap started going down. My good friends boyfriend broke there childs leg. He is only a month old. And he did it on purpose. Well, my question is should I still be friends with him? I was always told to forgive, and I believe you should. But Im just not sure if I should forgive him for this. I would not let him be around my kids because he is a child abuser. I just dont know. I never thought he would do something like this. As far as I know he has never hurt my kids. But I dont want to betray my friends trust (the mother). Should I just tell him to go to hell because he is a bad daddy 4 doing this, or should I forgive him still talk to him, just not hang out. What does a person do in this situation??????????? Plz help me with this one.
2006-07-08 06:45:43 · 28 answers · asked by butterfly 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes she does know it happened on purpose
2006-07-08 06:54:10 · update #1
The cops know also
2006-07-08 06:54:33 · update #2
it is underinvestigations, all that has been taken care of.
2006-07-08 06:57:28 · update #3
I myself found out by the mother. I know what he did is wrong, and he needs to pay big time for it. Thank you for all your responces
2006-07-08 07:00:05 · update #4
She is not with him nemore. If she was I wouldnt ask this question. I would be asking should I talk to either of them.
2006-07-08 07:26:20 · update #5
OK i know what you are going through mentally is hard, because he is your friend, but there is a thin line as humans and mothers that we do not for any reason put anyone of our kids in danger no matter who it is. see if this man did this to his son on purpose, first of all i don't know what he is doing without some cuffs on, for not only child endangerment, but also abuse and battery to a child. that is a felony offense. not only that, think about the fact that if he was evil enough to do this to his own child, what do you think he is going to do to someone that its not even related to hem. always know that you never ever know a person, no matter how much you think to know then, their is always some hidden agenda that we don't know about until its rubbed on our faces and that is with every living person.
you were told to forgive, yes absolutely forgive those that deserve forgiveness. but once again, you have to realize that forgiving a person,so that you have a calm soul, doesn't mean that you will let someone into you life that is going to jeopardize your family. open your heart and know that the one that really needs the help is the little child that is only one month old, that not only has no real father he is getting mentally and fiscally scared by this.
i hope you make the right decision.
Vero
2006-07-08 07:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by vero 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think the first thing you should do is talk to your friend and get her away from the boyfriend. Since you have the room in your place take her and the baby in and get her some help and counsiling. Why would she stay with the guy that did this to her child ? The abuse will get worse !! I GUARANTEE IT !! I have full custody of my child because of abuse and neglect by the mother.Now she has another child and I feel sorry for it but all I can do is protect my own. If she does not leave him the abuse will go on and on on both of them. You don't have to be friends with him, just stay friends with her and let her know you are there for her.
2006-07-08 07:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so awful that he would do that to his own son! I would definetly tell him to go straight to hell and don't look back. I don't think your friend (the mom) will have a problem with this since she isn't with him anymore. You won't be betraying her trust at all by doing that, you would be betraying her trust if you stuck up for the ingrate. Your friend will be going through a hard time right now and she is going to need you, stick by her do anything for her that you can. I hope that guy goes to jail and drops the soap.
2006-07-08 07:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mike and Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember, FORGIVE does not equal FORGET. forgiveness is great, and if the lord puts that in your heart, then thats wonderful. however, dont forget the fact that you are now actually seeing this "friend" for who and what he really is... a sadistic baby abuser. if a person could and would do something like this to a 1 mo. old infant, what boundary would he not cross?! keep yourself, family, and friends clear of this guy, and turn this sick jackass in before a baby , child or someone else ends up dead.
2006-07-08 06:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by rdhtone! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from the drama. Call Child Protective Series, then leave that situation. You do not need the negative atmosphere. Tell the child's mother that she and her son deserve better. If she asks for help, direct her to the nearest resource center for abused women.
2006-07-08 06:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Paul's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to loose both of your friendships. But I think that if my friends baby's father did that to her I wouldn't even speak to him anymore. How could you purposely hurt your own child? It's just wrong. He wouldn't like it if someone purposely broke his leg now would he. But if you stay friends with him I think the mother will never talk to again. So you decide which friendship is more important to you.
2006-07-08 06:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. First off does your friend know he did this on purpose? if not... YOU NEED to tell her... NOW. He is a child abuser... and I would report this to your local authorities. Your friend may also be in harms way. If he did that to his own son... what could be do to her? I would break myself away from him completely, but not your girl ( us girls gotta stick together) Offer to let her stay with you and break it off with him. Chances are that he will hurt her too... if he hasn't already. In this situation, I Couldn't forgive. He has deliberately and intentionally hurt an innocent baby.
2006-07-08 06:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by trippinwurmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him especially if you have kids. Be there for the Mom she's going through a tough time and will need all the support she can get.
Grrrrrr reading that made me want to break both of the a**holes legs. I can't even imagine..it literally just makes me want to cry for the baby and his Mom. How awful!!!!!
2006-07-08 08:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by 10 pts for me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Not about the friend or the boyfriends trust..It's about the welfare of that Child!
You need to contact social services or the police..As soon as possible with your info....Maybe you can remain anonymous..Im not sure..but you need to do it now!...And dont ever give a second thought to the opinions of the kind of people who do these things or ALLOW these things to happen!
2006-07-08 06:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 9 month old and when i read this my stomach dropped thinking if that were my son! i would love to know who the guy is! i would say loose him especially if you have kids because you'll never trust him and im glad hes known to the cops i hope this loser rots in jail people like this do not deserve be in this world.
2006-07-08 07:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋