I’m close friends with a girl who I liked, so I told her 2 weeks ago. She responded by saying that she just wanted to be friends. But over the course of the last 2 weeks she has kissed me many times and we have cuddled together intimately in bed a lot.
She rings me 1st thing in the morning and last thing at night, and many times during the day. We go out for dinner and hang out together each day. She has told me everything about her! We talk for hours. She says she wants to meet my family and get along with them.
She still says we are friends. Says she has gotten hurt by previous boyfriends many times and not long ago and is scared of giving her heart away again. She still talks about her last boyfriend who hurt her badly – Basically used her and then suddenly stopped all contact with her!
What does this mean? Does she even like me? Am I being played for a fool and don’t see it?
2006-07-08 06:15:42 · 16 answers · asked by TRH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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I know there are a lot of responses, but I can assure you that non are like mine. From what you've said, she obviously wants to be with you but she is being cautious. And the talking about the ex, is just a natural thing because she does have memories about him, and she feels spiteful and wants to show that he was a horrible person. (I'm pretty sure she talks badly about him more often then not right?) Right now she is very weak, from the last relationship and she needs someone to give the affection she couldn't give to the ex away to. She picked you, and she feels very comfortable with you by the look of it. You are a critical, right now, you are the one who is going to damage her for the rest of her life, or who is going to save it. Since you are the next in line, you have to prove to her that you will not do what he did, and that all men are not like that ****** she dated before. Be careful of what you say and do. Even if she says that your "just friends" her actions are different and you know that. And for alot of women, actions are the most truthful words you can ever express. Good luck My friend, and take care...
2006-07-08 06:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Late-Nite 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to decide if you will make a good BF and not a BS er, She like you but don't want to ruin the friendship that she has with you, don't let her play you, tell her how you feel and that she needs to drop the talk about the exes and go forward, she may want you to feel sorry for her reason why she is talking about it, tell her you have heard it every time and that it is getting old, and want you want out of the relationship, You know that your friendship will not be the same because of what you all have done.
2006-07-08 13:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by jordenstan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may like you but due to her past is very scared to "make it official" I'd give her time. Make sure she feels comfortable with you. Talk to her about it. Ask her "why are you leading me on if you just want to be friends?" This MIGHT end the kissing and cuddling but you also could make her think well if we are doing all the things people do do while dating then why shouldn't i date him? Communication is key...Good luck you sound like one of those decent guys girls are always trying to find.
2006-07-08 13:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by commander_fernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she really likes you. She could be considering dating you but doesn't want to let you down if she decides not to. As you said she'd been hurt a lot she may want to make sure you wont hurt her first. She wants to get to know you first learn about you and some of your past relationships or about your family. If she gets to know you as a friend she'll know if you're the cheater, the heart breaker, the user, or whatever. So just stay freinds for a while but make sure you remind her you like her as more then friends so that way she wont think you lost intersest.
2006-07-08 13:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole draws in scribbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to take things slow, from my experience girls dont act like this unless they really care. She's afraid that if she commites to something she will get hurt, even tho she's already committed. Confusing i know but thats women for you. She thinks so long as "friends" she cant be hurt when she's already commited. Your not a fool, she loves you man. Good luck and hope things go for the best!
2006-07-08 13:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by goku_trained_by_king_ki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is either she ie falling in luv with you or she is infactuated.She's got some feelings for you but she is waiting for you to say something, Either you love her or you just wanna be friends with her, and not an intimate friend.
She wants to meet ur family, kisses and cuddles with you, you have to tell her before it goes too far unless you would really want her to be your girl.Make sure you take the right step.
Cheers.
2006-07-08 13:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have much confidence that she likes you as much as you like her. She may just need a little more time to heal from the previous issue. Once she is confident that you are what she wants and that you are serious about her, she'll give in completely. Sounds like she's already there but just needs to take that final step. Good luck!
2006-07-08 13:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by R J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so from what i read she really does like you but shes scared and she would go out with you but she doesnt want you to break her heart and no matter how much you promise you wont get anywhere so dont even try.. but just think of it as if you guys were going out and treat her with the most respect then shell probably get the courage to ask you out..... now this may take a while so dont expect anything to happen soon
2006-07-08 13:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding a girl who desires you in the same way you desire her. This particular girl is wasting your time and you will never, ever get any action from her. To her, you're a friendly, harmless welcome mat to be used for chatter ... nothing more, nothing else ... ever. I'm not suggesting you do anything rude, but you look like a total wuss for being there for here every moment she needs you. Next time she calls, politely tell her you're busy - and don't offer her an explanation.
2006-07-08 13:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by All gods are useless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she is too smart to jump into a relationship too soon. She wants to get to know you so that she can make better decisions about the future of your relationship.
If she did not like you, she would not cuddle, would not kiss, would not keep in constant touch. Sounds like you are "growing" a relationship. Give it time. She sounds pretty wise about this. Respect her wishes.
2006-07-08 13:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋