2006-07-08 06:12:36 · 28 answers · asked by gautam s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if u are in love and want to get married then do so. Arrange marriages are for those who couldnt find one themselves .
2006-07-21 23:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Razor 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love has nothing to do with marriage. Marriage is about committment, about keeping your promise until death do you part. Yes, it's very nice if you both love each other the entire time you're married to each other, but generally speaking, there are times when your relationship will be rotten and there will be times when it is good.
The key is to make the decision BEFORE you get married that you will not get divorced under any circumstances. When you take that option off the table for good, it becomes a glue that holds you together and makes you work issues out early because you already know that a divorce is not possible.
Married with three kids.
2006-07-22 03:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well actually both can have their benefits in a love marriage u likely have known the person for awhile and been aa couple so u know each other better and can have a more successful marriage...however an arranged marriage doesnt give u that chance and u have to learn to love that person and i think that teaches a very good lesson and honestly those marriages usually outlast love marriaages which is why some cultures still believe in it..i say this having lost a very special person to me due to the fact that he had an arranged marriage..i am know married based on love and we couldnt be happier...
2006-07-08 06:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that there is never going to be a feeling in your life like the day you marry the person that you love. You know each other, you know that you love each other, you know that you have things in common and that you're going to wake up in the morning and not feel any better that day than when you roll over and look at the sleeping face of that person that you couldn't see you living without . I don't agree with arranged marriages. Of course you could luck out and the person could be someone that you really like, that you do have lots in common with, and that you can grow to love.. that could happen.. or it couldn't. I could not see me being married to someone that I don't love, don't feel sexually attracted too, don't have anything in common with. That's why dating is so important. You can see what there is and when you go out on that date with Mr. Right.. and get to know and love him... you marry him. That's what I did.
2006-07-19 00:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Marriage Expert havign done it three times. I would go with an Arranged one the next time, they seem to last longer and have more family ties to making the marriage work.
2006-07-22 03:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by CrzyCowboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly, arranged marriages can work. When you are suddenly close to someone; and take the time to see them as a person...then anything is possible. I have never met someone that didn't have something wonderful to offer. You must find her qualities and focus on them; rather than spend your time finding fault with her. You will already have something in common as a leaping off point for growing intimacy.
If your heart already belongs to another...this changes things...and you must go with what your heart tells you. You are the one that will have to live with the choice...not your family. Even though they may not approve initially...they will come around eventually...if it turns out you made a good choice for yourself.
Explore your heart very carefully...and your answers will come to you. We often have small inner voices that tell us when something is right or wrong for us. Listen to your inner voice carefully and you will be fine.
2006-07-21 21:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love
2006-07-22 03:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by mlm1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're in India, and your parents chose your future husband or wife and you have no say, why would you want to go into an arranged marriage? One should marry the person he or she loves and is compatible with. We're living in the 21st century, not the 18th century...
2006-07-08 07:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Georgia F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how much risk are you willing to take it.
If you are binding by family/parents obligations and rules, go ahead with arrange marriage but you wont feel contented and satisfied because the girl isnt your choice at the 1st place. However, your family might like and respect you for respecting their wish!
If you are willing to take chances like loosing family functions, the will and support/acceptance, go ahead with your dream love girl..why not? We live just once but at the end of the day parents/family doesnt make us happy. They will be gone/die one day and you have to face the world and life of your own. Not them! You have to decide for your happiness. Be a man and face the world.
2006-07-08 06:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in arrange marriages you need to find someone that YOU can spend the rest of your life with.
2006-07-16 15:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋