well i just got together with someone(i'm 16 and he's turning 16 in 5 months) and he doesn't wanna kiss me in public..when we are alone we do make out,and when we are at the cinema and stuff..first i thought it was my fault that he didn't wanna kiss so i asked his brother and he said he didn't kiss all his exs in public either..what should i do?..i really do wanna kiss him anytime,anyplace!
2006-07-08 06:03:33 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Different people have different limits. Some people believe you shouldn't kiss before you are MARRIED, let alone in public. No kidding--and it's not entirely unusual as you might expect. I had a coworker once who suggested that kissing someone you're not going to marry is like kissing someone else's husband or wife.
On the other end of the spectrum, I've known people who are exhibitionists--they enjoy having sex in public places, even with other people watching. While still in high school, one of my friends hung around with a regular group of 30-40 people that had frequent orgies.
So given the wide variety of people in the world, only you can decide exactly what sort of person you want to spend your kisses on. If it's really important to you, and the lack of affection when you need it makes you unhappy, maybe you should look elsewhere. If it really doesn't mean that much to you, maybe you like the guy enough that you can overlook it.
I think you're right--it's a little unusual. Of course, you're both still on the younger side and maybe it's just something he'll grow out of. But be careful about that; if you're only continuing to date someone because they MIGHT change sometime in the future, then you're compromising on your on happiness--maybe you'd be better off with someone else, or even alone.
If you haven't already, TALK TO THE BOY. Communication is key to understanding. If you could decide that it really doesn't matter, it probably wouldn't be worth talking about--but then here you are giving details of your relationship to complete strangers, asking for advice, so probably it does matter to you in some respect.
And be very careful about letting someone else tell you what you need to be happy--the question of what you want in a relationship is really up to you and the person you choose to be with.
2006-07-08 06:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by S H 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
PDA is not cool thats why. You two are still young, he might feel akward, either way no need to make out in public. Hold is hand, if he does that he probably just doesn't like kissing in public, but has no problem showing people that you two are an item. If he doesn't, tell him that the lack of contact in public makes you feel___ well however you feel.
2006-07-08 13:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by tinks44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you can force this. he just doesnt feel comfortable kissing in public. it's not because of you. he's probably thinking about what other people are thinking. Do they really want to watch me making out with my gf? if i were walking past would i want to see that? those are questions probably going through his mind. if you're annoyed when you see other people kissing in public why would you do it yourself. it seems a bit hypocritical.
Also maybe he thinks that when you two are intimate, it should be private and cherished by the two people sharing that moment. not a spectacle, like at a zoo.
but if this is serious to you, you should talk to him about it. maybe as time goes on he'll become more comfortable with kissing in public
2006-07-08 13:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Torrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is more mature than you. Why is it so important to kiss him in public? When you are in public you should be anticipating your private time. That will make it more exciting and worth the wait.
People who want to kiss in public just want to show off, not display affection.
2006-07-08 13:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not polite to make out in public, and soemtimes even a peck on the lips may be embarrassing for him. Just don't kiss in public.
2006-07-08 13:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Phrosty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some people just dont want ever body nowing there private stuff I did not want to kiss my boyfriend in public until I got to know him better so I would just give him time and take it slow.
2006-07-08 13:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by swaglehead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it makes him feel uncomfortable? Talk to him about it and find out why. Ask him if he'd be okay with small PDAs like a quick peck on the cheek or something.
2006-07-08 13:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get another boyfreind you obviously don't care or respect his feelings. you need to grow up and stop being selfish. He could also find a mate who doesn't need everyone looking at her get a kiss. you just want everyone to know you have aboyfreind. grow up
2006-07-08 13:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thinks that there is a time for that and it's not in public, or he may want to do it privately and not be in a rush, ask him why, and then respect his answer
2006-07-08 13:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by jordenstan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel if he does not want to kiss in public it is because apaarently he is cheating if he isnt set down some rules for him be strict!
2006-07-08 13:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋