We have a great marriage- WE are good friends- We are very affectionate. He thinks I am pretty.
we laugh a lot and hold hands, but he says he is too tired for sex which happens every two or three weeks. He is the manager of social workers for a program for emotionally disturbed teens in trouble, and he works from 7-7. Could it REALLY be because he is tired? He says and acts like he loves me. I believe him. We've only been married for 4 years. I am in love him. We are together every night after work and on weekends.
2006-07-08 05:46:41 · 11 answers · asked by mollie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I would believe him. With a demanding work schedule and a job that drains you emotionally like that it's no surprise he's tired. Try to communicate the best you can, and see if he can take a vacation. Maybe that will give your sex life a boost. Until then, count your blessings that you have a good man. Things will get better. Just keep communicating your love to him, and don't be afraid to tell him if your needs aren't getting met because maybe he just doesn't realize it. I'm sure he wants to keep you happy if you help him to know how. PS - maybe a trip to the doctor will help? Good luck!
2006-07-08 05:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is tired working 12 hour days. Even more important, he is emotionally and metally drained. Sex is so much more an act between the ears than between the legs that fatigue has a tremendous impact on sexually activity. Your husband needs to be able to spend some time excersizing three times per week to build up his physical enrgy but also to recharge himself mentally. If he does this and stays healthy, he will never need viagra.
By the way, diet has a lot to with it as well. I went through the same problem. I'm 40something and trying to raise a 7 and 3 years old while working 45-50 hours per week can take a toll on you. I decide dto get back in shape and changed some of my diet and things have been great. Feel free to contact me directly if you wish.
2006-07-08 05:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Earl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-09 00:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is tired. His work probably drains him of emotional energy, too.
Why not pick a night of the week and make that the "pamper him senseless" night - hot bath, backrub, good meal. Just a way to relax him and keep the romance alive? If he's relaxed and happy, I'm sure the sex will follow naturally.
Good luck!
2006-07-08 05:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I think he is just tired.This man obviously has a stressful job. I only have two teenagers and somedays I am soooo...aggrevated that sex is the furtherest thing from my mind.Give him a break. Fix him a nice dinner...rub his back..and be willing to just listen.You two seem to have a good base in your marriage(Friends)...However we all need sex occasionally...lol...so buy some new lingerie soon...even at his age...that should perk him UP.My hubby is 43yrs old..(7 yrs older than me) and we have been married for 4yrs,too.Our sex-life slowed down some,too.But...BOY...when it does happen...It Is GREAT!!!Just be patient....Good Luck!
2006-07-08 06:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things change with age. Just be attentive and listen. Sex isn't everything and it's certainly not priority amongst everything else in this world. Don't be so selfish. Intimacy is expressed in other ways. The body doesn't stay the same, and yes it gets tired easier with age. Give him space.
2006-07-08 05:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex can become too routine and boring after a while. you need to try something new, like different settings, hotels or candle lit dinners in your own house. if you are still talking then you have a good marriage because once that stops you are on the way out.
2006-07-08 05:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need excitement in your sex life. You need to change things up. Live out your fantasies, talk to him. let him know how you are feeling and most importantly, damn! let him know exactly what you want! Make it good for him just as well as you. We all have our secret fetishes tell him to let his out of the bag, this is what marriage is about right? sharing?
2006-07-08 05:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering his age he may be hiding a lack of libido or functionality. Suggest--gently--that he make an appointment with his doctor to discuss sexual function. Be understanding and supportive.
2006-07-08 05:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋