I have said something that has hurt my fiance's feelings. I was upset at him so I told him that my family comes first and that there are other guys so he is upset,hurt and heartbroken which results now he won't talk to me and give me a chance to better our relationship. What do I do? Do I leave him or keep him? Any advice?
2006-07-08 05:20:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He should leave you if there are other guys. Funny how you counter being a b itch by saying your family comes first. Still makes you a b itch though. Hope he leaves you.
2006-07-08 05:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must give him a chance and give him your sincere apologies for having hurt him. Tell him that there is nothing to take these things so seriously, because you said it naturally and due to inexperience.
When you join him as a wife, you will have your own family, i.e., husband, children. Then how you will define about family. Is it not your family again. You must know how to project and say things without hurting when it comes to purely personal relationship. Conversation is also an art. Learn it fast by using your brain. If he cannot understand, after doing all these, you can decide to leave him alone for the better.
2006-07-08 12:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it sounds like you were probably hurt over something and you were just talking out of anger. If you find a true love like him and if you are really ready to spend the rest of your life with him you need to talk everything out. If he doesn't want to talk to you make him talk to you because you deserve it. People in relationships get into fights all the time and the way the people in the relationships handle their problems make all the difference. You can also try taking him to couples therapy or consult a therapist about some things too.
2006-07-08 12:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Angel88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we dont realize how words can hurt the ones we love. If he wont talk to you, then buy a romantic card and write your feelings out and send it to him or leave in his mailbox, somewhere where he can find it easily. Even a voice message would work. Tell him how much you love him and how sorry you are and if you givin the chance you will make up what you said to him...and if he forgives you then remember this old saying....."What you say today could haunt you tommorrow"
2006-07-08 12:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to him, tell him you were wrong, that he was right, that your family has to come last. . But in considering your attitude and reputation, why should he give you another chance? Why should he believe you, or let you better it? Of course the only way to better it, and make up for your wrong doing, is to go back to him, and do what he wants. You should keep him, if you can!
2006-07-08 12:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say way deep down inside of us we say what we really feel. Maybe you were having doubts about the relationship and said what you were holding in for so long.
It is so crazy how we hurt the ones that we love. Hasn't this man suffered enough from you? Let him bet so he can cool down and if you guys are meant to be than you will.
2006-07-08 12:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, love is not a game, and it seems to me that that's what you think it is. You just can't throw that type of stuff up in someones face and then expect for them to automatically come running back to you just because you did it to make them mad. You leave him alone. If he wants you back, then he'll let you know. At this point, he probably doesn't trust you, and he has every reason why he shouldn't.
2006-07-08 12:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obvisouly have issues with control. Mostly self control. If you don't have enough self control to get into an arguement with someone without trying to hurt them, then you don't deserve to have someone special in your life. My advice would be to admit you have a problem with your anger and get some help. Otherwise, if he does come back to you, your just going to do it again and ruin his life. Share with him your faults and the steps you will take to make changes and maybe he will come back, but if he doesn't, can you blame him?
2006-07-08 12:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Earl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's your fiance' and you told him there are other guys??? wtf...of course he's not going to talk to you...i'm sorry to tell u this but you are probably not going to get him back...go ahead and leave him, because your realtionship is f*cked and if you DO get him back he will think of you much differently..(in a bad way...)
2006-07-08 12:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) you need to apologize
B) it's up to HIM to love you, you can't change him and
C) if I were him, I would have left YOU
why the heck would you tell your fiancee that there are OTHER men and expect him to EVER take you back?
2006-07-08 12:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋