2006-07-08 05:17:49 · 12 answers · asked by honey lugs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not just men, we ain't all perfect. I just wish we were all able to take equal shares of the blame for breakups when both are to blame. Sick of being the bad person.
2006-07-08 07:18:53 · update #1
When i split with my ex of 6 years, ALL of our mutual friends stopped speaking to me because i was the one that admitted i had beeng seeing someone else.
It turns out that not only had he been seeing someone else for 18 months, all these so called 'friends' knew about it and used to go out with the 2 of them as if they were the couple while i stayed at home because it was yet another 'lads night out'.
He used to call me to say that his mate was ill so he was staying to make sure he was ok then spend the night with her and when i was working away one weekend he had her in OUR flat, OUR bed to 'keep him company', his parents went away and he was looking after their house and the dog (four legged one, not the other her!) so stayed there for the week and had her there with him too!! HIS PARENTS KNEW!!!!!
I might have been in the wrong too but at least i wasn;t disrespectful by doing things like that so yes, i agree with you . . .
exes can be absolute ba*ta*ds and still manage to be the good guy!!
2006-07-18 03:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Little_Chicken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know that we are always considered the good guy.
Most ex-wives will be the first ones to go and tell all their friends about what a jerk their ex-husbands were.
I've seen both though....I've seen ex-husbands obsessed with the idea of punishing their ex-wife. I've also seen it the other way around..
Are you speaking from personal experience or just from what you have observed?
2006-07-08 05:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who decided to end the marriage, I know what you mean. Apart from her family, other family and friends just aren't taking sides...and she wants them to. I can understand that.
Even our kids are ok about it, which is great but dopesn't make her feel any better.
I'm trying hard not to be a pig, but in some respects it would be better for her if I was.
I ended the marriage because I don't love her. That's actually harder to take than having someone else.
2006-07-09 21:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Martin L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't they always want other to think they are good guys, it is because they put up a good front for everyone else, but see you don't know the person really untill you have lived with them and others don't live with them, believe me their true colors will show. But they have to put on a front to win someone else then after a few months a yr the true them come out. Beleive me it always does.
2006-07-08 05:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by cuteangelbreeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because evry 1 beleives his side of things and feel sorry 4 him cos his mum sticks up 4 im and spreads it about that u r the bad 1 they wont take the blame 4 wot they do cos they get sum 1 else 2 do that for them cos they cant b held responsible for their own actions wen their mum brought them up that way
2006-07-12 20:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Merseygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have some ex brother-inlaws and one a jerk and one a good guy. I love both of my sisters and I have an outside view of there situations. Some men are and some are not.
2006-07-08 05:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are not the good guy they are your ex they must of been a total jerk to be your ex just don't listen to what he or anyone else is saying and find a new group a friends it will get better
2006-07-08 05:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can women be pigs as well? my ex is a right ***** but then she regrets ending up with the **** she is now with and i get the flak over it. mis-directed anger i think its called
2006-07-08 05:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not starting the conflicts, just participating in them.
2006-07-08 05:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex is a good guy. but i know what you're talking about. i wish i had an answer.
2006-07-08 05:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋