She doesn't give her mum a penny towards her keep. It's her money. Am I right in saying she should give something. By the way, due to health problems, my girlfriend can only work part time.
2006-07-08 05:17:39 · 15 answers · asked by button mushroom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My daughters by the age of 15 were wanting to show some independence and the way they started doing this was to get a job and purchase many of the items they wanted. Clothes, jewelery, makeup and other stuff. By this age they start having preferences like what shampoo or soap they like to use. My wife was not going to the store to purchase five different brands of the same thing. We never had to tell them to go buy their own stuff it just seemed to be a natural course of action as they matured. My wife and I agreed that they would never have to provide food and shelter as long as they lived at home. We never expected them to buy their own food but on occasion when we would get in from a trip our daughters had gone to the store purchased the food and cooked us a meal. Again their way of showing they are maturing and can make it on their own. In your case I would maybe over dinner as a family discuss the issue. You could start out by telling her that soon she will be graduating high school and will be going off to start a life on her own. If you are purchasing he clothes tell her that because her style is hers you do not think you can do that and her be happy with the selection. Start small and let her grow her independence. Believe me she will be more prepared for being on her own if she starts learning the value of what she earns. It helps her learn to budget also. Your not wrong in asking her to do her part. I would just have her spend her money in a way that prepares her for life after leaving home. Good luck.
2006-07-08 05:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Can do it man 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
300 pounds isn't a lot, but when I first started working, I didn't earn much and still my parents asked for a small amount (15% of my gross income) in rent and keep.
My son is a student and works during the summer and although he stays with me, he pays for his own food and clothes and takes me out to dinner every other week. Fair enough. What matters to me is the voluntary gesture, not the money per se.
I think you should discuss this with your girlfriend. She's probably too nice to ask for money, but it's not okay for the daughter to not contribute at least a little to the family.
2006-07-08 12:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a child above 16 is working and living at home with their parents they should pay something towards their keep. £25 a week would be sufficient, from that amount a month if it is after tax. However if you are not yet living there it is not for you to ruin your relationship by getting involved in this matter! Good luck.
2006-07-08 12:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by iloveliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope she shouldn't have to pay rent. One she is still a minor and her mother still claims her as a dependent on her taxes, so her mother is still supporting her. If her daughter is going to school and keeping a job at the same time then her mom should support her, if she isn't going to school then she should get a full time job and help out her mom. Plus her mother can probably find some help with money if she needs it.
2006-07-08 12:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, having been looked after and had things paid for her for the last sixteen years should pay something back especially as the mother is unable to work due to illness. Tell her to pay up or get out so that a lodger who will pay rent can be found.
2006-07-08 13:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by weeman1971 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still a child - would you take money from a child? It might be different if she was earning a lot of money, but obviously she isn't. And it isn't your place to say. However if your girlfriend needs some extra money she could always ask her for a donation.
2006-07-08 16:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rotifer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the daughter isn't earning a fantastic amount but she could help out with food bill. But ultimately, it is your girlfriends decision as to whether she demands money from her daughter.
2006-07-12 17:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
300 pound a month isnt a lot but she should give her at least £15 a week its only fair after all her mum feeds and pays all her bills, she should talk to her
2006-07-08 12:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by jojo78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bring children into the world to provide support for them, not for them to provide support to you when they are still kids. If she's 17 hopefully she's thinking about saving money for college, or buying her own car.
2006-07-08 12:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give her a choice, she can live in your hous4e if she pays rent.
start off with something small to get her used to it, like 20 pounds a month
2006-07-08 12:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by jonathanmusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋