I need help Ladys and guys?

Question

I was just told by my work that I am going to M-F for temp prox 3 mo and I informed my wife and she started to cry because she would not be able to see me as much. my question is should I tell my work that I need at least one day off during the week so I can be with her or what? please no smart @ss answers just serious please. Thank you in advance

thats the point I will not be out of town and I will be off at 3pm eveyday and she gets off at 5pm and 9pmwhen she works. I just dont understand

Answer 1

In the current economy - you can't make job choices based on such a minor issue. Your wife should be grateful you have a job and should be supportive of you doing whatever it takes to hold on to it. How about promising that when you do have days off you will make a concerted effort to plan special things together. Maybe designate every Friday or Saturday as "date night" instead of just doing your usual weekend routine. It could be fun to come up with inexpensive places to go - even if it just involves renting some videos together and watching them on the floor with lots of blankets, pillows, and favorite snacks and drinks. She is probably fearful that with you working more - the weekends when you are off will be taken up with chores and other activities that take time away from each other.
Also - keep in mind these extra hours might be a chance to shine in the bosses' eyes and could lead to a promotion of some sort. Extra money?

Answer 2

The question is unclear. Are you going to be out of town M-F? If so, do you have a hotel room and she could come visit? I don't know what the problem is? Why wouldn't you be available in the evenings?

If she gets off at 5 and 9 your boss will not go along with having you take a day off every week unless you can get him to agree to a 4 day, 10 hour a day week like hospital nurses do. I think she is being unreasonable. Is she off in the middle of the week?

Answer 3

Sorry, but it doesn't seem like a big deal to me at all. I mean come on, some people hardly see each other and still make it work! Talk to her again a week later and see if it was just PMS talking. Promise to make the most of the little time you'll have together during these three months and follow through with your promise. After all you are doing this so both of you could have good life financially.

Answer 4

Seriously - It's only temporary and you have the weekends together. If it was a permanent deal, I'd look for some sort of a compromise, but 3 months really isn't a big deal. A good marriage will survive this. Imagine what it would be like if you were transfered overseas for 6 months or a year. Then you'd have reason for concern. Don't worry about this one. Look at it as a challenge that the two of you overcome together. :-)

Answer 5

First of all you should have talked to her about it and explained your reason for wanting to work more hours.... But if you have a goal in mind and you truely just want to make good things happen for the 2 of you than eventually she will follow suite because she knows your heart and she might not like it but she will learn to accept it.

The thing with us (women) is that more work can sometimes mean another woman. And even if it isn't another woman in the picture we still tend to think the worst. Now when she sees that you are just doing the right thing and not trying to be slick she will be alot more comfortable with the sitution.

But you better get her some really good gifts to make up for not talking about it with her first.... I am a lady so I suggest jewlry, shoes, or a nice azz bag (a really good expensive one).... LOL

Answer 6

ask your boss to comprimise if not tell your wife that she will be a way from you for a while but when she see's you she will love you more than ever, and if neither of these work, reach in your heart, do you want to ? or not? its on you. good luck. and be sure if you do do it tell your wife how she is the most imprtain thing in your life, and how much she means to you kiss her today when she least expects it.

Answer 7

Sounds like regular hours to me.You and she still have your week-ends and your nights.I suggest giving her alot more of your time when you are NOT at work..cause she apparently misses you..ummmm...also.....2 ppl that love each other can be in the SAME ROOM and still miss the other...I hope you understand what I mean.Good Luck.

Answer 8

well all i can say is my husband used to work night shift (10pm-7am) and i worked days(8am-3or4pm) and we never saw each other we faught all the damn time when we did. and he ended up cheating on me because he said i was a bi*tch and because he wasnt getting any from me. so i think yeah you need to do something and spend time with her. and please dont go out and cheat on her please guys have no clue that it hurts us so damn bad. good luck hun i hope you find your answer.

Answer 9

yall can still spend time on weekends cant yall? she migh have started crying b/c she was on her period or something or she was just in a senstive period of time