my cousin is going out with this guy and he is very mean to her alls they do is fight but she wont listen to me about breaking up with him . he made her lose all of her friends because he wont let her hang out with anyone he dont even like her hanging out with her own family please what can i do
2006-07-08 04:55:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have already told her mom and she knows that he is mean to her but she wont listen to her mom either he calls my cousin and her mom a black lover i dont want to say the word that he says but you know what i mean
2006-07-08 05:01:24 · update #1
You can't do anything about this relationship or how your cousin deals with it. She won't thank you for interfering in her love life no matter how good your intentions are. This is something she has to do herself and the more you try to force her to dump this guy the harder she will hold on to him. Maybe it would be better to leave her be and let her sort it out in her own time!
2006-07-08 05:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, this is very serious. This is an abusive relationship. You could try some sort of intervention having your entire family and your cousins friends come and tell her why they dislike this boyfriend.
Unfortunately the abuse is likely to get worse if your cousin does not get out of the relationship.
Sorry, I do not know the advice to give you to help you help your cousin. I've attached some websites for reading though.
http://www.ccsf.edu/Departments/Women_Studies/Project_SURVIVE/4_6.html
http://www.ncrlc.com/HelpFriendAbuseRel03.html
2006-07-08 05:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if you really think its that bad, then it calls for drastic measures. Your cousin isn't going to listen to no one but herself. You have to show her what a scum he is. If I was you(you sound desperate) have your cousin catch him with another girl, plant the girl if you have to(hint hint) Oh and make sure there is enough people around like a party or something, because if its only her then he'll tell her it was a mistake and she'll believe him. But if he causes her public embarressment then it'll be harder for her to forgive him. It's one idea Good Luck
2006-07-08 05:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by MARIA F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your cousin, family. Talk to her parents, if he treats her that way, she needs to dump him. He sounds like "mine, mine, mine".
If he's mean to her and made her lose all her friends, she needs to lose him, afterall, he doesnt own her,although he may think he does.
The only thing I think that you can do is fight back, try to make his friends turn against him, but if he's mean where he can seen, tell neighbors to call the police if they see anything or call yourself.
2006-07-08 05:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by kb9kbu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring his attrocities to the notice of her parents.
Next take the help of police by lodging a written complaint.
He is not having any right on her to do such things. This applies whether he is a b/f or a legal husband. His action will be treated as a criminal one and dealt with properly.
2006-07-08 05:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can just leave it up to her ur friend if she believes hes a real boyfriend than she wont break up w/ him but all you can do is hang out w/ her more and then he might get jealous or mad and he'll yell at her or tell her not to hang out with you well then you tell her or ask her who do you like better me or him?.. AND IF SHE SAYS YOU THEN SHE'LL HANG OUT W/ YOU!!!
2006-07-08 05:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing as of right now....obviously your cousin is an idiot for going out with someone like that. It looks like your cousin like's to be told what to do, kind of like a father figure to her, and believe it or not but she likes how her boyfriend is treating her because he is like a dominant figure to her, and she looks up to somebody like that. It sounds crazy right now.....but in time it will make sense as all things do...good luck.
2006-07-08 05:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't true love.true love doesn't include humiliation,it's about self-respect and respect of ur partner.u know wat..i bet u that if ur cousin dumped this guy he'll come begging her to be back to him,coz he knows deep inside himself that no ther gal would accept to be treated the way he treats her.he obviously likes her and she loves him,the only solution to set things right either by talking to him as a warning(but not to warn him directly) and if he didn't respond,then she has to dump him.if her really loves her and wants her he'ld come back to her,i he doesn't then bye bye my love!!!!believe me it'ld be better 4 her this way and am sure that she'ld be better off alone away 4m such inappreciating person
2006-07-08 05:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try telling him to leave your sister alone . this usualy works because if he gets angry and tries to hurt you or anything go straight to your sister, and say that he tried to hurt you.Of course she will get angry [because i'm sure she loves you more than him]and posibly break up,but if he see's he's wrong and promises to be better, than you win. if he just ignores you, go have a talk with your sister and find out why she doesn't want to break up and help her see that all you and your family want to see her be happy
2006-07-08 05:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do nothing - except support her. Your cousin needs to learn herself if he is that mean. There is no amount of logic, no matter how bullet-proof it may be, that will dissuade a lover from their intended.
2006-07-08 04:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by MartyR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋