I want to help him but he won't let me. please help?

Question

my ex bf is an emo, loser, loner, goth psyco with parents that beat him. he cuts himself. (can you see why i left him.) i kind of hate him becuase he's really mean to me but since i'm a christian i keep trying to convert him to christianity and get him to stop cutting. he wont listen to me, but i think that if i don't kepp trying, then some day he'll kill himself. should i give up?

Answer 1

distance yourself and avoid evil/
changed the times and days you do things

it's hard enough to keep yourself from drowning, how can
you save the world?

keyword - ex

Answer 2

Being a christian, you know the power of prayer, honey. Instead of adding more pressure (by trying to force him to change a religion in the midst of his anguish), be his friend. Be there for him, sometimes don't say anything but just be present. How is he mean to you? If you hate him, then how are you supposed to truly help him? Let him come to you...they usually do if they feel there is no pressure or judgement. He needs patience, and maybe you could talk to a professional who could give you some real advice.

Answer 3

no you should not give up...maybe converting him to christianity is not the best approach. i am a christian as well but instead of preaching to him why dont you show him the love of Jesus by loving him in a friendship way. maybe offer your phone number to him, i am sure he already has it, so he can call you when he feel like cutting himself. oh and by the way i wouldnt call him a loser loner goth psycho if you ar trying to help him....that isnt really going to help anything

Answer 4

It is obvious that he knows that he can get your attention by doing all this stuff to himself. If he approaches you with his problems, tell him that you are praying for him, but that you are only interested in talking to him when he is ready to get help. When he sees that you are serious, he will either stop doing it and get help, or he will find somebody else that will give him the negative attention that he is looking for. Remember, you do not own this problem, he does. Some people just don't want to be helped. And also, prayers really are answered. So, pray for him and his situation and his salvation, but don't let him drag you into his issues.

Answer 5

This young man is very seriously disturbed. He needs psychiatric intervention, not someone yelling "Jesus Saves" in his ear. Although ones faith in Jesus, or any "higher power", can prove miraculous in recovery, remember it is through human measures that we recover from illness. And this person needs human care at this point, save his life, but then worry about converting his soul. And by the way, constantly nagging someone about your religious beliefs is beyond annoying. You need to use your faith for comfort and maybe even a little counseling for the abuse at his hands. But he may beyond human aid, but do let the professionals try. Yes, pray for him, but let God handle the outcome.

Answer 6

if you want to help him ONLY because you are christian, you can keep praying for his salvation.
but I think the you still love (or at least like) him, if I am right you should keep trying to help him and never give up that's of course in addition to your prayers for him

I wish you a good luck

Answer 7

Just keep trying and see if he can come to church 1 day ,but try 2 make it a day when he will beleive in god.

Answer 8

the only way you can help him is to let someone in authority know about the situation===school====child and family services you personally can not save him =======speak to a crisis line or counsellor for your on guidence

Answer 9

go to a guidance councler , or your parents or a teacher and tell them about his parents and how he cuts himself. they can help him they are professionals . dont feel responsible to cure him. as for converting him give up

Answer 10

Don't give up, however, if he doesn't want to be helped, then there isn't much that you can do. Just be available if he needs you.