If a woman says she loves a man..... is this reason to trust that she is speaking the truth? And if the same woman has lied to him before about other things..... and he is financially supporting her now..... how can a man begin to trust such a woman?
2006-07-08 03:58:09 · 21 answers · asked by ofthehighest 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
This is not a "burden of proof" question, but one of faith.
Sadly, you will need to find it within yourself to trust this woman; failing that, you will find yourself faced with the decision whether to keep the relationship as it is or else to end things.
Trust is earned, at least in my opinion, and when lost can be a difficult thing to regain. I would suggest talking earnestly with her about your issues, and being completely open and candid about everything that involves the two of you and your relationship.
If she is equally candid with you, then it is possible to regain this lost trust in time, and to go forward.
May things grow better between the two of you.
2006-07-08 04:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when trust has been eroded away, it is very hard for the person to start trusting again. you been cheated on by her? then it's her perogative to show that she deserves your trust again.
but if you cant find yourself beginning to trust her again through her actions, mind you not words, then dump the broad and move on to someone else who will value you and your relationship and give you the proper respect that you deserve
you say u're supporting her financially? all the more reason she will say she loves you, cause she needs you and am using you. but that of course, is only 1 possible avenue, and she might actually be remorseful too
at the end of the day, watch her actions and see if she is trying to win your trust again
if not as a man i ask you to be man enough to dump the money grubber and move on,
there are many fish in the sea. no woman is worth that
2006-07-08 04:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by GEN Gamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has lied in the past, then that gives rise to suspicion and if you add the support to it, the man should be concerned whether she is truthful. Speaking as a woman, I would be suspcious. Thing is though, you just never know whether another person is telling the truth, esp. not when it comes to love.
In the end, her actions will provide the proof whether she does or does not truly love you.
2006-07-08 04:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Trust... well I'm a thing of young one for this one, (I'm 16) but let's see where my 2 cents goes:
From the weight of your little situation if she's lied to you, continuously, even if it's about little things like her weight or her age or somethin'... those little things she's lied to you about, can become larger things... if she thinks, 'Oh I can lie to him about these little things', then she's going to start growing on her lies and before you know it you've captivated a love for a liar... and not only that, if she's lied to you already, wouldn't that prove that she doesn't really trust you either? Like some of these other folks said, a relationship without trust and with lies... its not a relationship, it's a web of lies that's going to continue to grow....
From the logic I know, you can't have a true romantic relationship with someone, without the trust to bond the both of you together... that's part of what makes a relationship pure and sacred. Without it, you don't have it.
Good luck to you, dearie... hope it works for the best.
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2006-07-09 19:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by ~*tRiiNa*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your right it isnt reason to trust that she is speaking the truth. But if she does things like offers to pay for something or randomly buys you a gift or just acts in a loving manner you will know its true love that she really means it.
2006-07-08 04:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you lied to her about even the smallest of things?
So many time the things we are upset about the most is what we have done to someone else first.
You need to talk to her and get this out in the open.
It sounds to me like you are looking for an excuse to cheat on her with someone else.
Or you already have cheated and have a guilty conscience and don't know how to tell her that you have done so.
2006-07-15 03:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are supporting this woman, she will say anything to keep you hanging on. For a relationship to work, both parties must have something to offer the other. What are you getting out of this relationship? And no I'm sure she doesn't love you, but it's obvious that love doesn't matter to you.
2006-07-17 06:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by riddletricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know why this woman is with this man. Is this man rich and the woman poor? Is this man good looking and the woman not so good looking? Are both the man and the woman good looking? Generally, people are honest with their answers - but what they mean by love may be vastly different than what you mean by love.
2006-07-08 04:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by The Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one actually knows if someone truly loves them or not, but your word is the most important thing a person has and if you cannot trust her word, then something is wrong. Why would you want to even be with a person who lies?
2006-07-16 16:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by delovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ,let me explain to you something....first of all ...how do you define Love?! ask your self. Then alowed me to tell you that theyre is 2 type of love . Loving care.and In Love. I think I did not say it right. Let me see.One thing is To Love someone and another thing is To BE In Love with that someone.Study whats really going on between your relashionship with that person. Care and concern = Love
But true desire,trust,faithfulness and loyalty = Love
Good luck and best wishes!
2006-07-18 18:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by Canela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋