Is it too soon to marry? I'm 20 but I graduate college next semester. I do plan on continuing my ed. and my other half is in the military (he's 23). We've known each other for 3 months but he had just been shipped overseas so I'm supposed to go after this semester and we'll get married. Its not like I haven't told my family. My dad actually kept hinting to the both of us why we didn't do it before he left but now that is too late.. and lets just say my family usually encourages me to breakup with whomever i date.. they say .. "hes not it". He lived with me and my family the last month he was here and since day one i've felt like he was the perfect man. We seem so compatible and things just click. I love him so much and he feels the same. Are are we being young and dumb. Or has fate just made it easier and we're too blind to see it?
2006-07-08 03:56:26 · 34 answers · asked by rae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you are in it for the long haul. Go into the marriage with the mindset that this is until death do us part, not with the mindset of we don't get along, we will just get a divorce.
My husband and I married after dating 6 months and we've been together 7.5 years. My brother in law and his wife married after 6 months and they have been married around 11 years. My father in law and mother in law did the same and have been married 35+ years. They were married around your age. So it can be done, but you HAVE to be totally committed to each other only and to making the marriage work no matter what happens.
Good Luck! :)
2006-07-08 04:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah..I think. I could be wrong. Starting a new career, new life could be over whelming and marriage the 1-2 years are the hardest. Not to mention you've only known this guy for 3 months. Are you crazy? Don't you know a person is on their best behavior the 1-3 months. You know nothing about his guy. Please be serious.
Enjoy life. Enjoy your independence. I believe when some people get married at a young age, they never really find out who they are or live life they way the truly wanted to, and especially when you've only known them for 3 months. Please!
Once they hit a certain age they go bananas wanting to experience life. By then, they have a family more responsibilities, etc. I say wait. Honestly, if you have to ask this question. I'm sure you already know deep down in your heart your aren't ready for marriage. So why ask a bunch of strangers? You know the answer. Trust me..If it's meant to be it will be. If not..Oh well.
2006-07-08 04:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you're in love, get married. Just because you've only known each other 3 months doesnt mean anything. The actor, James Garner, knew his wife 2 weeks I believe and they are married to this day (over 40 years I'm guessing). I saw a program recently where a couple got married on their 2nd date. So........that part has nothing to do with it. There are no guarantees with any marriage. Additionally, dont be so naive as to believe he is the "perfect man". There is NO such thing. NO one is perfect. Just be open and honest with each other and do the best you can to respect each other's needs. Good luck !
2006-07-08 04:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell if he's the right person for you. I believe some people are meant to be together and know it from the start. However, love or being in love can blind you to characteristics that you may hate down the road. Your time apart should help you sort your feelings. I vote for waiting until you can spend more time together. If it is meant to be, it will happen when the time is right. Don't rush marriage. It's one of the reasons the divorce rate is at 50%. If he truly and deeply loves you, he will wait. If he can't understand that and says that he needs to be married, then maybe he's not the one for you. True love will wait.
2006-07-08 04:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, 20 is not to young IF you really believe you BOTH love each other and you are willing to share what ever life throws your way. But, Personally, If I was your mother, I would tell you to take it slow. Enjoy life alittle. Enjoy the romance and excitement of being in love. Trust me, once you get married, it's not the same. You start taken each other for granted. The excitement disappears. Enjoy life while you can. You'll never be 20 again. Good Luck, and God Bless!
2006-07-08 04:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My big Question is have you lived your life yet?? How many guys have you dated? Have you had lots of nights out with just your girl friends? The biggest mistake you could make is getting married before you sew your wild Oates believe me!! Go out have fun ( if you haven't all ready). Marriage is a full time job. It's not all fun and if you plan on continuing your education it will really be tough the first 2 years. If you both have had an active life during your teen years you should be fine!!
2006-07-08 04:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Brown eyed girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!!!!!! 20 is way to young to marry!!!!
There is nothing wrong with carrying on a relationship with him but you have no idea how getting married changes things. What you need to do is what I insisted my daughter do. Finish your education, establish your career, then when you feel you are in a finacial position to support yourself without having to run home to momma and poppa if something goes wrong. THEN get married.
I do believe in true love...but over half the "perfect" marriages end in divorce when the loving couple find out just how much work is involved.
Good luck!
2006-07-08 04:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married at 19 my wife was 20 and it worked for us. I dont think age is the most important factor but I worry about not knowing him well enough if you two have only been together for three months. I would take the time to get to know him better. Try living together first its what we did. You will learn so much more than you ever wanted to know about a person by just living with them for awhile.
2006-07-08 04:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Death 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its true love it will last, take your time and when he comes back see how things are then. I was 16 and married a military man and it lasted 42 yrs until he passed away. I wouldn't have changed a minute of those years. Good Luck in your future and God Bless
2006-07-08 04:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not too young, but I'd have some serious reservations about marrying someone I'd only know for three months. There is no way that you can possibly know everything you need to know about the person you want to marry in three months. You are going to be married for three days and wake up one morning and ask yourself who this person is that's snoring and farting and drooling on the pillow next to you in bed.
2006-07-08 04:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋