Why are people so negative about abortions?

Question

I'm 17 and I found out I was pregnant a few months ago. I knew that my family would disown me if I kept the baby, even to give it up for adoption. For some people there is just no way around it. When I went to the clinic, there was a group of "Christians" standing around with posters telling me I was going to go to hell for having the abortion. I was emotional enough already. Why do people insist on making the horrible experience even more painful? Doesn't the Bible say not to judge people? That that's God's job? I'm on the pill now and I'm so much more careful with contraceptives, but I'm glad that my experience taught me what strength really is. Has this happened to any of you??

Afterthought: I know it came across like "oh well i was screwing around, got pregnant, didnt know what to do, and aborted my child." but it was never like that. That was my BABY and i had the abortion because my family would have disowned me and hurt me while i was pregnant. i wanted to have it done surgically rather than miscarry because of abuse. sometimes, there really arent choices. not everyone has a perfect christian family in some perfect christian fantasy world where nobody makes mistakes. PS>>>THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO COMMENTS! EVERYONE! Even the person who said I should go to jail. People need to discuss these things in order to help other young women with nowhere to turn. Every opinion is read and appreciated. Thank you.

Answer 1

They are selfish. that's why. MY religion says that abortions are OK when the physical or mental health of a woman is at stake; I'd say that the mental health of many women are at stake when they have an unintended pregnancy. It's not something happy for everyone, and it's not always the right time financially, emotionally, or mentally. Why bring an unwanted child into this world? My religion (Judaism) also doesn't consider life to begin until birth, so the whole baby-killing thing is moot. A fetus is not alive, so it's not murder. You can't murder something that was never alive to begin with.

Also, pregnancy can happen while using BC and condoms, even at the same time. It did happen to me, and I am lucky that I live in an era where abortion is legal.

I love how people say, "If you don't want to get pregnant, don't have sex." Well, what if you are married and never want children, are you supposed to never have sex, or are you supposed to mutilate your body through heavy-duty, potentially unsafe surgery to make you sterile, *just* because of that? What, are we back in the Nazi era, when they used to make people get lobotomies and forced sterilizations? That's horrendous!

I know what you are feeling, and I know that G-d doesn't want women to suffer at the hands of fanatical, selfish, chauvinist people.

Save the rights of the living over those of the unborn!

Answer 2

Some people see it as murdering babies.

Somehow a zygote or fetus is a human in their eyes. It could not survive outside of the womb if a miscarriage happened.

You'll find that the same people will not condemn a woman if she has a miscarriage or has her period. (The potential child never reaches term. An unfertlized egg, by their logic, would be murder. They never seem to take the argument that far. Yet.)

OK, since they see it as murder, they feel a moral obligation to stop people from commiting murder. They don't see any real world reason why a woman should ever get an abortion.

Those that do, favor keeping abortion legal. Those that don't, favor making it illegal.

I knew someone who had two abortions before she graduated high school. She was just not emotionally or mentally ready to raise a child. She was hellbound to get pregnant and her parents stopped her twice.

Not surprisingly she had a child out of wedlock a few years after high school. That kid is smothered when she pays attention to him, and is totally ignored at other times.

Abortion should be a legal choice. It's personal and private. Nobody is forcing abortions on anyone. I don't like abortion, but I do see why women need to have a legal right and the ability to make that choice.

It's not just about the fetus, it's also about the mother. Every woman should bring a child into the world she wants to bring. No child should ever be an unwanted child. Unwanted children grow up to have all kinds of emotional problems.

I think there's the middle ground with the religious nuts, get them to see the problem from another angle. (If that's possible.)

Otherwise, fight for your rights and the rights of all women to keep that choice legal. Eventually the right wing nutters will make it illegal.

God help us when that happens.

Answer 3

This could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship, I'm 15 and I went through the same thing a year ago, people told me that I'm a murderer for having an abortion, but my baby had down syndrome and spinabyffidia, and to top it all off I was too young anyway, I was 13 weeks pregnant, it had an heartbeat and it was a boy, that just made it worse. The fact that people look down on you when they find out things that you don't want them to know f***s you up from the inside, they'll always look at you as if you are the biggest sl*t in the world, but they'll never know what it feels like, but karma comes back around, all of those people will get slapped through the face so hard that they wont be able to walk for a while!!

Answer 4

People are real ******* sometimes (if I may be so bold as to say that) Those people protesting where not Christians in my view. They're just sick hecklers. People are negative about abortions because some see the fetus, zygote, whatever as a human, regardless of whether or not it could survive outside the mothers womb yet, thus they think its murder. I simply love how a good many of these "pro-life" people are in favor of the death penatly and war...but that's besides the point.

The bible does say not to judge, and in my humble opinion that's where these pro life people I guess decided to just skip for a few pages and go on to something else. I'm sorry this has happend to you but its good you are on the pill now.

This has not happend to be personally but a friend had to have an abortion, and the person who gave her the most crap about it was a mutual friend (now an ex-friend)of ours who had just been "converted" to Christianity and told her she was bad, going to hell and would not support her decision.

Be strong, and let no one get you down. Peace

Answer 5

A lot of people are against abortions because it is considered killing another human being. If you lay on your back you should know what the outcome can be (a baby or some kind of STD). So why risk it when you already know that there is birth control or just plain keeping your legs closed/in your pants. To me a child is a blessing from the Lord and there are so many people out there who are not able to have children and while those who keep getting knocked up and killing them, give those children a chance at life by letting some family who want to love a child that you chose to kill.

Answer 6

The choice to have an abortion is entirely yours. It IS taking a life! We need to be careful about commiting sin knowingly and then asking for forgiveness. What happened to contraception in the first place? It is not for any one to judge you but people have a right to their opinions just as you had a right to have an abortion. At least the group of christians made their point, you are now so much more careful with contraception....although from a christian view point, sex outside marriage is also sin. See it as a learning experience and build on your strength! Velken, you are a wise one.

Answer 7

In society today, humans are against killing anything and anybody.
they are also way to into telling everyone how to live their lives and what not to do.
It is your life and what you chose to do with it, only you will have to live with the consequences..
remember in the old days it was against the law to have an abortion but if a woman got pregnant she was loose.
Don't fret about it, wither you believe in right to life, or right to choice...it is all up to you.
Did you know that even taking the day after pill is considered an abortion, way before the cells are considered or tern into a breathing living being, because some people believe that the minute the sperm attaches itself to the egg its a baby.

yes I understand how you feel, and why you asked the question.
I hope that you get the answer you are searching for .
just remember you did what was right for you at that time, don't ever regret your decision.

Answer 8

If you were emotional when you got to the clinic, then you must have known you were doing the wrong thing, right? So what if your family disowns you. Any family member that disowns you for being pregnant should be tarred and feathered. Besides...how do you know they would? Because they told you? Because you assumed? It could have been the other way around...once your parents saw their granchild, the baby could have melted their hearts and turned them into a couple of old softies...

This has never happened to me, nor will it ever. I'm responsible when I have sex with my husband. If I were to get pregnant again, I would keep the baby. I would never think about aborting him or her for any reason.

Answer 9

I am a Christian, and you aren't "going to hell because of the abortion". I am against abortion because it is killing a human being, for the mom's sake. You know, if you didn't have sex, you wouldn't have to deal with the abortion. You can go to heaven though, if you accept God's grace, and Jesus' death on the cross, and ask Jesus to step into your life. You are right, the Bible says not to judge, and I don't think those people are real Christians to do that and say that. it hasn't happened to me, and I hope it doesn't. I would be careful about having sex now. You know how it can end up now, and I have no idea why you aren't waiting till marriage, but I am sorry you killed your baby, for your sake and so you wouldn't get hurt. I hope you can come to od through this... He forgives you for having the abortion, and having sex before marriage. He loves you and wantss to have a personal relationship with you.

Answer 10

People are so negative because to many it's murder. I personally believe it's murder as well. However I'm not going to rant at you. The christians at the abortion office should be ashamed of themselves for acting that way. However they believe that if they can make you too afraid to go into that office that the person they got to turn around won't try again to go in. I used to be a christian and I was taught all about why they do these things in christian school. I'm not a christain anymore but I still don't believe in it. I will grieve for your baby. I am sorry you felt you had to make that decision.