My friend is really nice and fun to be around. the problem is, she goes through guys faster then shirts (which is a lot in a short amount of time becuase she's so spoild) and on the way, she cheats on most of them. i really think she needs to get better morals. i know it cant really be considered "cheating" at this age, becuase were really young, but still. she also meats a lot of her "loves" on the internet, and she doesn't really even know them. she has also stolen her best friends crush. I guess I'm just worried that
1)she'll steal MY crush,
2) she'll go somewhere to meet some internet guy that she met atnd get abducted
3) she'll turn into a sk@nk and never get married becuase she cheats on all her guys.
what do i do to get her to adopt a better moral code?
2006-07-08 03:39:07 · 11 answers · asked by KB 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm 12, ok? but plz, take this seriously anyway.
2006-07-08 03:51:15 · update #1
it sounds like your friend is missing something in her life, called parental guidelines. altho she may have many things bought for her, she is not getting the guidance she is craving. this is quite frequent. girls esp act out to get attention when they don't get the right attention from mom and dad.
think about the golden gate bridge, it is miles and miles long and 6-8 lanes wide. ppl travel it at high speeds everyday because it feels safe...but....take away the rails... you would only have one lane going over it b/c everyone would be afraid they would fall off.
its the same with your friend, she has no rails in her life and probably feels like she is going to fall off if she doesn't find enough attention.
there is not much you can do for her, she has to realize that she needs help. you can suggest going to a pg center and getting information on safe sex. you can also suggest finding a counselor at school who can help. or maybe you both could volunteer at a local shelter, to help build your self esteem. you talk you her and set limits about your bf or what you will do if she goes to meet someone she does not know. you can share your concerns and let her know you love her and want her to be happy.
if these things don't work, you may have to let the relationship go for your own emotional health, you count too!
lifting you on eagle's wings,
lily
2006-07-08 03:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find a better friend and if you choose to keep her as a friend, don't follow in her footsteps. It's good that you know that what she is doing is wrong. If you're worried about her meeting guys off the Internet then talk to her parents her talk to yours and have them talk to hers. But if you're going to continue to be her friend, it's obvious that you can't allow the Internet stuff to go on as you seem to be well aware of the dangers it poses. Good luck
2006-07-08 10:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you??? Tell her what you are worried about. She sounds alot like my best friend when I was a teenager, and my friend stole lots of my boyfriends...and now that I am older we are no longer friends, and the last I heard she lives alone. We all have to make our own mistakes. Just be honest with her and tell her the truth.
2006-07-08 10:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by chillilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she wants to be treated with respect and not known as some tart that sleeps with anyone stop sleeping with every guy you meet and she is stupid for talking to people on the internet when she doesnt even know them, they could be anyone it is very dangerous. you are her friend so talk to her and make her listen if she doesnt tell her she can do it on her own
2006-07-08 10:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by leanne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be blunt your friend sounds like she might be somewhat of a b*tch, people like that don't want to change, if you are really scared for her safety find a way to tell her parents or somoen who should be watcing over her without her knowing it was you
2006-07-08 10:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Advice Whore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, all that you can do is to tell her what you think and how you feel as an friend and that what she is doing ain't fair not to herself or to the one inline and around her, IM me if you want to talk more
2006-07-08 10:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by child of god 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just just keep secrets from her dont let her know what is going in your life and last point go and propose your crush as soon as possible
2006-07-08 10:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by manuj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. All you can do is control whether or not she is around you.
2006-07-08 10:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, a hoe is always going to be a hoe, for real.
2006-07-08 10:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well ull have to tell her talk to her about it
2006-07-08 10:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋