I have had one experience with a woman, but now am involved in monogamous relationship with a man that I love dearly. We're getting married later this year, and I have no intention of changing those plans. What I can't understand is that if I love my man this much, then why do I still have the desire to be with a woman?
2006-07-08 03:33:55 · 18 answers · asked by greenmountains84 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How do I deal with this? A lot of answers so far state that I am Bi and I agree, have felt that way for many years, but didn't act on it until about 2 1/2 yrs ago. My partner does not want to induldge in my enjoying another woman and I don't want to screw up our relationship. We were friends for many yrs before we got together as a couple.
2006-07-08 03:42:18 · update #1
Maybe the reason you feel this way my dear is because you enjoyed your time with her of course...but maybe that you felt safe. You know, for women that is a big factor. We like security alot! If you love your man though...stick with it. Time is the best healer. Stick by your guy if you can because he deserves a fair chance. I don't know the relationship gap between this man and woman but you could have plunged too soon into this new relationship you're in. But, now that it is what it is you should just let it flow. If you just like females though (which Im not judging but i'm scared of other boobs besides my own) maybe you and your new man could spice things up a bit here and there if he is cool with that...that is ur business though. I will definately leave that up to you. (IF your chick made you feel special and adored...which females tend to do even in friendship alone this could also be a factor.)
2006-07-08 03:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It does appear that you are bisexual. This is actually quite common among women in the USA, although many do not admit to it publicly. Thus, in itself it is quite normal. However, as with any relationship, you have to be honest with your male partner. You need to know where he stands on your bisexuality, and the potential of you acting upon it. Furthermore, you need to also determine where YOU stand on these feelings.
Remember, your partner and you may love each other very much, but that does not eliminate the possibility of you two enjoying less traditional relationships, that may include in your case, a third person, another woman.
2006-07-08 10:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Armando A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly because you enjoy sexual contact/intimacy?
Psychologically speaking, we are all inherently bisexual. You probably feel you may miss out on the intense feeling of being with someone who can know you like only another woman can, by simply being of the same sex, so by default knows your emotions too.
Just my opinion.
:)
You can deal with this in two ways, to my mind; you can stop the relationship with your boyfriend to carry on exploring your sexuality or you can accept that you have at least had an experience that was enjoyable, but now must sacrifice your desires for the sake of your marriage to be and possible security and stability for your future. All relationships require sacrifice of some sort, it is down to you to know if this is one you can do without regret.
There is always the possibility that you may be able to persuade him to become a bit more adventurous later on in the marriage!
Best of luck, I'm sure you will be able to do the right thing.
2006-07-08 10:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity... and you may be bisexual or lesbian..... just on the path of discovering it. I really don't know what to say... haven't been there, haven't experienced such things, ever.
Keep in mind that love involves everything about the other person, not only sexual relationship..... and if you take it like that, you may be wiser not to leave the man you love.
Ask yourself, do you love that woman?
If the answer is no, say no.
It is very easy to say no... it is just a decision.
Don't be confused now. One thing is lust and another thing is love. Don't look at them as from the sexual point of view, but from the point of view of your feelings for them. Look at them as if both were males, for example... how would you proceed?
I heard that homosexuals have the same confusions about love and lust as straight people do..... sometimes they are not sure about their feelings. It must be the same for bisexuals.
Look at them as persons and not as male or female, that might help!
2006-07-08 10:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's because you are bisexual, or perhaps you are in a heterosexual relationship for the benefit of fitting in with societies way of thinking. Going into a committed relationship especially such as a marriage which is a joke anyway, but with a half hearted effort is already headed for failure. Know what it is that you truly want and go with it, don't let anyone determine what's best for you, especially family. To each his/her own. Live and let live, if this is your problem. Be real no matter what to your spirit as best you can, with that you can't go wrong.
2006-07-08 10:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by commonxsense2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seem to be many things a Humanbeing does not understand about SELF!
Life is mysterious sometimes!!
& That makes Life that much RICH n exciting !!!
the issue here is - u've had exprerience with another woman ONCE. However, in case your COMPULSIVENESS PREFERANCE for ur sexual DESiRE from ur UNCONSCIOUS MIND for another woman arises UNANNOUNCED - in ur wedlock with a man, it would be better you discuss the issue with him even atleast at this stage of ur engagement/ courtship before the D-Day for wedding. Otherwise the pangs of agony and distress that could rise its hoods may not be able to sustain ur wedded life.
Wishing u GUD LUCK & a Happy Weeded life :)
2006-07-08 10:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by blessed_one_male 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he doesn't want to partake in exploring your own sexuality and interests? That's just sad, I had an ex that always said she thought she was bi and it turns out she was. Without going into details alI I can say is that you need to be honest with your self and make sure you ar totally. Be honest with him to becuase you never know (exploring your sexuality can be fun with the right people) my girl was with me and it lead to some very interesting encounters and now she has moved on and is even getting married. But if you're not totally happy now will you once your locked into a serious commitment?
2006-07-09 10:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are beautiful creatures by design. You appreciate art more than most women are comfortable to admit. I think you're quite heterosexual, but are free enough to enjoy the beauty of a woman. (plus your new hubby might ask for a 3some sometime)
2006-07-08 10:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bi thing is in fashion now but its not healthy. I am sure your new hub would go for a threesome but you will be jelious. Love him and get past this.
2006-07-08 10:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly don't know. sometimes you don't know what life offers you. i just hope that you won't marry your man because you just want to live life ideally and use it as escape on what you feel with a woman. better let yourself acknowledge what you feel to yourself and let it flow and then let it go.
2006-07-08 11:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by windysec 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋