I have been married for 7 years and my husband has only taken me out 4x. Last week my mom kept our daughter for the entire week and my husband did not offer to take me anywhere, but he went to play soccer 3x (he's on a league) and I just sat there like and idiot. Anyway the weekend came an he had not planned anything, I was ready and he say's we don't have the money. huh! at first I was angry then I just got really sad, but I let him know that If and when I had an opportunity to go I was going regardless if he were going or not. Now the opportunity has come and I want to teach him a lesson, not to take me granted. I need some good advice, because I know that if I go without him, all shi# is going to hit the fan. Please I need some serious advice only.
2006-07-08 03:12:48 · 17 answers · asked by mexme2day 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Grow up?
I am not being flip. Why not use this opportunity to renew your marriage instead of being petty to undermine it? Put on a smile, hug your husband and go together.
2006-07-08 03:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what , I am going threw the same thing in my relationship.
My other half when he gets off work he goes to his buddies house and hangs for five and a half hours while I sit home with the kids...
If I want a break then I have to have his mother watch the kids cause he won't watch them so that I can get a break and he next to never takes me out... I haven't gotten a break in months.
So if I was in your shoes I would get a baby sitter and tell him I was going. and not invite him so that I could do something for myself and get me time.
Don't think of it as teaching him a lesson, because then you won't have that much fun, just do it to go have fun. seems he does things to make sure he has fun. you are human to and deserve to go out and have fun. You can't expect him to make sure you are doing things you need to do like he is your parent.
You will never have enough money to do all sorts of things, some times you just need to make the time and just do it....but don't shirk your other responsibilities where you will regret it later and be stuck in a bind.
hope this helps good luck and have fun.
2006-07-08 10:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go without him and let him throw a fit. If you don't do things for yourself, you won't have any fun, because he quit trying for you, so don't wait around for him. If this happens enough times, he will come around and start doing things that you like, too. It's not all about him.
I had the same problem with my hubby. Last year, I won tickets to go see Eminem. My husband doesn't like hip-hop music, but he went anyway, and he actually had a good time.
2006-07-08 10:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So go and let him know where you are going he should understand that if he gets to go out than so shouldn't you you need your time out as well. Thats one of those things me and my husband love about each other if I want to go out with out him anywhere he doesn't care I can be out till 4 in the morning thats how much he trust me. And if I did stay out that late I would never do anything on him because I love him soo much anyways don't do it as revenge but as something you want to do for your self as a treat for you.
2006-07-08 10:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by melbell962000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should join a league of your own... maybe bowling or something with the girls that you can do every week. i would go to the concert. because you have a life together but everyone needs a life of their own also. it took me a while to learn this to but once i did i look forward to going out once a week without kids, hubby just a really good stress reliever
2006-07-08 10:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by c_cupp2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite a friend and tell him you are having a girl's night out. If you go about it in the right way and not act as if you are being retaliatory to his behavior last week, no poo should hit the fan,
2006-07-08 10:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was something that he wasn't interested in I would say go for it but it sounds like he wants to go and be with you embrace that not to many people have it as for the week you had without child that's your own fault you should have made plans and stuck with them.
2006-07-08 10:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by martha33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is go and when he says why is he not going let him know everything u just told us. tell him not to interupt you that he is selfish and that you have a right to enjoy yourself. how is he ever going to learn if you do not teach him what he is doing is wrong. my husband used to be like that with me but when i started doing things on my own he thought he was going to loose me so he decided to start doing things for me and with me. if i had not made that move to let him know that from anger it went to sadness he would have never changed. tell him exactly word for word what you told us. if he does not get the message then that is his problem and be sure to let him know this.
2006-07-08 10:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is leanne i would just like to say that it was pretty selfish of him to do that when you had a whole week to yourselfs. just tell him you want to go on your own with your mates and have a laugh on your own, if he wont let you go to football or bother to take you out anywhere then you go on your own girl and have a good time and dont worry about him, sound harsh but he probably wont even know that you have gone
2006-07-08 10:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by leanne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, don't try to teach him a lesson. Tell him exactly how you feel like you did here. If you have to, write him a letter and tell him that way. You write clearly and with feeling, try to communicate with him that way too.
Trying to "teach him a lesson" might only make things worse.
2006-07-08 10:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋