Why are divorced people selfish?

Question

Divorce shouldn't exist, and neither should divorced people. Divorced people are just plain lazy. They want to wreak havoc on society by using their so-called "reclaimed singlehood" to prey upon the truly innocent real single people out there. It's not enough that these divorced people wreck one marriage, but I think a line needs to be drawn when they start ruining another life by remarrying. And it's awful what they're doing to the kids, too. Mommy and Daddy shouldn't be separated. Marriage is something that should be taken seriously. It shouldn't be something that a person just do on a whim. A alternative to these problems (divorced people) is for divorced people to register as sex offenders. They screwed up one marriage. Divorced people are going to screw up the next marriage if a single person let them and destroy you and turn you into a nuisance like them in the process. It all takes but one shot to get it right. It's as easy and simple like that.

Answer 1

YIKES !
Did you forget your med's this morning?
There is no truth to what you stated here.
You need a lobotomy.

Answer 2

Oh, my. You take the nice Prozac, and Auntie Victory will explain things to you.

In our (American) society, we are both blessed and cursed with great freedom. This extends to our choice of marriage partners.

In addition to this truth is the fact that people do get themselves stuck in marriages that are waaaaay out of balance (abuse, neglect, cruelty, and so on are the results of this), and there is no reason on God's earth that such an unhappy situation need continue.

It's true that a lot of kids get hurt; this is, of course, the result of having children before one is ready...truly ready. But, refer to my remarks about basic freedoms, above.

Your call for the registration of divorced persons as sex offenders is amusing, rather than shocking, as it could involve half the population....imagine how few people would be available to perform any useful work after six, not to mention the almost certain ruination of the restaurant trade.

(Is the Prozac kicking in, yet...? Good, have a cup of tea.)

Bear in mind that people do change as they age. A man at 20 may have completely different values, ethics and political ties at 45. His wife may, also; are they still compatible?

The point I am coming to is that marriage, in this country and in this Century, is less of a business arrangement (as it is and was in other places and times), and more of a social liaison. We sometimes outgrow our friends; we sometimes outgrow our husbands and wives.

And now, a forecast: you're on your way to being quite a Negative Nancy. Run your life the way you see fit, but try to develop a little compassion. It will be useful, I promise.

Answer 3

wow we are bitter aren't we??? What has a divorced person done to you? I have to assume...you dated one? But haven't been married or divorced yourself?
I've never been divorced either, but I married a divorced man...so I can understand a little of your bitterness..but at the same time, I am thankful my husband got his divorce, and his reasonings for marriage, and the divorce, were really out of his hands. He was tricked into the marriage, of a woman, who he never did like or could stand. So why should he spend his life miserably, for a kid, she went about bringing into this world, without ever consulting him about any of it?

I do think people give up on marriages too easily, or don't take them seriously enough...but at the same time, I do not believe two people should live miserable lives, just because they share children together. It is not healthy for anyone involved, including the children.

And sometimes, we just make mistakes and have to learn to live with them. It's all a part of life.

Answer 4

u know comming from a broken home where my mother left me at three and have not seen her since i would still have to say it is needed but only for the extreme situations. in my adult years i became a muslim and in our religion divorce is the LAST resort. not easially aquired. but i ask you what would you do if your spouce contracted aids would u still want to be with them? what would you do if your spouce is beating on you, cheating on you, not going to work and you end up living in a box? what would you do if your spouce became an alcoholic or druggie of corse you are not bound to the marriage. in my religion there is something called a dowlry. which means the man offers a woman say 20,000 dollars on the condition of a marriage contact. if she leaves him for what ever reason and it is not lawful like he did not cheat or hit her etc.. but she leaves because she does not feel like being with him any more she walks away with nothing. if the man for some reason decides he does not want to be with her n e more then that is it she takes her dowlry. this is a good system because people think twice before marriage in teh first place if he is not ready then he or she does not get married. if they are not sure it will work out then niether of them enter the marriage. it eliminates the idea of giving up on a marriage so quickly.

Answer 5

Wow!!!! you have been burned, it's not true that divorced people are just lazy, no,

sometimes it happen that there is no way the marriage can continue, I know it is hard on the kids but sometime the difference are so great that there is no way it can continue without going to mortuary.

Yes, there are some in the basket as you have mentioned but to generalize I think it's not fair to others too.

Answer 6

I am Divorce for over a year now. I would say this is what I did. I went and bought everything i ever wanted that i couldn't have when i was married to psycho. They don't want to be shelfish they are just trying to put theirs lifes back together and shopping is the first thing they do. When divorce people are out looking their just trying to have fun...with everyone not trying to be shelfish.

Answer 7

you sound just a tad bitter. first of all........ all divorced people are not selfish, just like all people with curly hair aren't selfish. a bit small minded there mate!
good on you and cudos for venting though. get rid of that bitter anger!
you came to the right place.

Answer 8

Something here tells me you are young and stupid. I have been divorced for 10 years. If you come to me and call me lazy I would literally kick your AZZ.

Answer 9

Have you even been in their shoes? Divorced people should be registerd sex offenders? Give me a break.

Answer 10

I didn't read a thing you said, but I'll answer the question.

They don't want to be in the situation that they were in when they were married again. They want it to be perfect. I guess that they're afraid.