Isn't it better for them to be happy? Why does society not accept those that are not in the norm?
2006-07-08 02:20:08 · 10 answers · asked by sleepy j 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Successful people are a minority and you know what the majority is like. We are social animals and would like to have everyone conform to our way of life. They are also concerned if there is something wrong with you. Sick people are also a minority. Hope you are sexually active and healthy.
Congrats for being different. You may read the book "Jonathan Livingstone Seagull" for inspiration.
2006-07-14 20:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself. I would strongly encourage a 21-year-old to date people of whichever gender they like, or both, because I would not want them to have regrets later in life about missing out on all the fun. You will probably never look as good or be as strong as you are right now. Take full advantage of it. You speak of happiness; Honey, I don't think you know how happy you can really be! At least give it a try if you are healthy enough and see what you think. Be careful, though. You must wear a condom no matter what. It's a drag, I know. My generation had it so much better. I wish I'd done so much more back then than I did. Make your life such that you don't have to say that when you are my age. Seize the day!
2006-07-08 04:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends...are you just not interested, or are you an active or closet gay? This is probably what they suspect. No matter what gets shoved in your face, most people don't consider it (being gay) normal, and want to see some evidence that their friends and loved ones are within the realm of normalcy. There could also be other variables...maybe you are at a point where you find female behavior tedious. Most guys do to some extent! But most of them are willing to look past that for sex. Maybe you feel that all people your age are immature, and feel more comfortable with people a few years older, but are afraid no older women would be interested. But the real question is this: ask yourself (if you don't already know) why you aren't interested, and be sure to be honest. It is not within the norm at your age to not want some kind of intimacy. It there's nothing gay going on within you, you could just have a very low sex drive. What you don't want to do is falsely modify your life for others. You're the one who has to live in your skin!
2006-07-08 02:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by matthew l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Society is composed of two types of people: those who don't question the social norms, and those who do. Those who don't are the types that will tell you that your goals in life are to get married, have children and provide for your family. If you don't do this they feel like you are ruining your life. That's why they try and pressure you. Those of us who question the social norms are generally happier since we follow our desires and only do what we feel is appropriate for us. The price we pay for that happiness is that we are subjected to criticism from large groups of people. Ultimately it is a personal decision. Be yourself or be the norm.
2006-07-08 02:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those people want to live through you. Not being the stereotypical 21 year old male doesn't mean you're not normal. That end of society that doesn't accept that sucks. In the end it's up to the person to decide whether or not to give his happiness away.
2006-07-08 02:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by rhebyl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because society thinks it is weird for people to not want to be with someone. I think it is completely normal at 21 to not be too interested in dating. You are focused on your life and making a name for yourself. I am proud of you for trying to chase your dreams and you can worry about love later!
2006-07-08 02:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by betterlife_travel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have something about us that's not the norm. Just focus on your goals, in the end you have to make the important decisions about your life.
2006-07-08 03:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by honey27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are always "that way" :)
First off, they want to make sure of your "availability", in not being gay...
Second and most important...THEY WANT GRANDKIDS!!!
Though, I never understood it, as a lot of Grandparents often end up babysitting until they are sick of it, but, they INSIST that thier kids have them anyways...
Just tell your parents that your gonna dump them on them every chance you get, and they wont have a moments peace as you and your future wife will probably be making lots of babies and that you KNOW that they will tire of it eventually, (even though, they say they wont), and even when you get old, we will still insist on you babysitting for us, because we will be impolite children :)
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-08 02:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless your gay,you will have very strong urges to date a girl sooner or later,wihout any pressure to do so.natural desires will take control.
2006-07-08 03:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by xzwnemono1stop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably fear you are gay and want to relieve their own worries, by pushing women on you.
2006-07-08 02:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by charyl92678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋