should tenagers have babies??

Question

should they have abortions?what do u think of a teen pregnant?should they get benefits? and who DO u blame? say what you really feel about teenage mums

Answer 1

I fell pregnant when i was 18 and worked full time throughout my pregnancy. then when my son was born i developed PND therefor i had to claim benefits, which i see nothing wrong with i had a genuine reason for not being able to work unlike some lazy gits who just cant be bothered. i have since been back to college and qualified as a beauty therapist, am running my own business from home and work full time. i think i am a good example of a teenage mum. we are not all spongers who just want a two bed-roomed house you know. i think abortion is a personal choice and is does not matter if you are 13 or 30 there is no guarantee your going to be a good mum just because of your age. well that's my opinion any way and i think as a teenage mum i done alright, I'm certainly proud of myself!!

Answer 2

In a word NO! Not because they get benefits but because they shouldnt be giving up the best years of their lives to have children......I wouldnt say that just because a person is a teenager they should have an abortion though, abortions may be the answer for some however it should never be considered as a quick fix for teenage pregnancy!
At the end of the day blame lies with the two people involved in the sexual act which creates the baby! There is sex education out there and lets face it children are not stupid, they know right from wrong and all about consequences of their actions from a young age so it's fair to say that teenagers ending up pregnant knew the risks.
Some teenagers make perfectly good parents and accept the responsibility admirably....if that's how they want to live their lives then good luck to them.

Answer 3

Should they? No. Do they? Yes. I was one. I'm a very responsible 26 year old with children ages 8, 6, 4. My husband (their Daddy) has a good job. We've been married 8 years. And if a 30 year old woman can get benefits, a teenage one should too. I blame the person having the baby, noone else. My parents tried their best, but it all came down to my and his choice. We were both virgins and got pregnant our first time. I took it as a blessing instead of a bad thing. We raise our kids well. They are in after school activities and sports. They are all intelligent children. People make choices, period. If you want to be mad, go get mad at the drug addicts that have kids. Or the people that get pregnant and abort their babies. Or the women that don't want kids, but have another because they never got a tubal. There is nothing wrong with being young. There is everything wrong with being immature and making that choice.

Answer 4

I( have a freind who is a teenage mother and she has taken complete responsiblity.. unlike the father who left her. She is a great mother as well. I am sure this kid will grow and be very well rounded, well brought up, and successful


I think teenage pregnancy cant always be bad. Its just another stereotpye to say all teen mother will have diffcult times, finicial problems, wont raise the kid right, or is irresponisble.

Not every teenage pregnancy is a result of impulsive sexual actions without any concern of the out come. Infact my friend Was taking the depo shot when she found out she was pregnant. My other friend is 19 and just found out she was pregnant although she religously takes her birth control every morning. Nothing can be 100%. Irresponiblity arsises when there is no protection involved, or no care about what could happen. I dont think you should have sex until your ready to acctept the responsiblities of the outcome. Many teen mothers do take their duties responibly. However the ones who dont are the ones giving all teen mothers a bad name. People seem to forget it used to be normal for a young teen to be married and having children. I think an abortion is somthing that should be discussed with both parents of the up and coming child as well as their parents. Alot fo times it will be what seems appropriate, but other times they will chose to keep the child. I believe if you took the risk you should raise the child, or atleast put it for adoption for all the infertile people who would love a child. I dont really think age is the problem with motherhood. I think its the type of person, the mentality of the person, and the behaviural patteners of the mother. no women, 15 or 35 who has a drug addiction, a drinking problem, an abusive personality, serious mental issuses, immaturity, history of irresponsiblity, a history of serious finacial problems, or anything of that nature should have a child. It could put the child at risk. When it comes to money if you cant afford it, then dont do it.. However, if you found out you were pregnant, and were against abortions, and had a job, and a partner to help with money then there are ways to get around that. Yard sells, WIC and other programs that greatly help out familes. I dont think just becuase your low income you should be permitted to have children that are well taken care of. As far as who is to blame for teenage pregnancy.. If the couple was irresponible about their actions they are to blame. If they made effort in birth control and other prevention methods that failed.. Then there is no one to blame really.. Some cases the parents should be at blame for the poor brining up of their own children.

On the same hand, If a teenage couple is married.. Financialy stable, and educated and mature ( if they are at such a comfy status that show maturity) then i see no reason why they shouldnt be allowed to have a child any more than any other couple who would not be frowned upon for having a child.

Answer 5

I dont think they should have babies, but younger kids/adults make mistakes and no I dont think they should be forced to have an abortion...Yes they should get benefits...if your meaning from state, county gov't. Just because they made a mistake doesnt mean that the baby should suffer medically wise or any other way. Neither should the teen mom. I dont think it would be a help if we as a society said to teens (when they end up prego) "thats it your on your own" knowing that it will be impossible for teens to provide for the baby or themeselves, LEGALLY. Some teens a very responsible and if you look back in the days, most woman had children by 16-18 yrs old. But for the ones that have no buisiness having sex or having a baby, they will realize that they made a mistake when they grow up and their life will be very hard. One thing I dont like though is how parents of thease teens feel bad for the teen after giving birth, that they cant go out with their friends and so on so they become full time babysitters! They need to make it harder for them

Answer 6

I wasn't going to answer until I saw Joey's comment. I was a teen mom. I'm not now but I was. I had my first child at 18 and my second at 19. I've never been on welfare. I don't believe anyone should have an abortion unless their life is at risk but that rarely happens. Some teen parents don't know what they're doing but some do. I have a brother with Epilepsy. Being at home with him while my parents were at were made me grow up real quick. Whenever he had convulsions, I was there to hold his head in my lap to keep it from bouncing off the floor. I was there to carry him and lay him on the ocuch because my parents both worked. I moved out when I was 17 to live with my boyfriend. 3 months later, I got pregnant with our first child. I was on the patch when I got pregnant. When my daughter was 4 months old, I found out I was 2 months pregnant. Once again I was on birth control. I was on the Nuva Ring the second time. It irritates me the way people judge someone just because of their teen mom status. I'm technically single because I'm not married. My fiance and I are getting married next year. Yes, I'm still with the father of my children. I'm going to college next year to be a registered nurse. My fiance and I are buying a house next year. I don't blame anyone. Birth control doesn't always work and we're only human. We have accidents. I feel that if there were more teen mom's that succeeded in life, less people would be so quick to judge. I personally don't feel teen moms or any moms should get benifits. If you can play, you can pay. I know I didn't ruin my life. I wish other people would see it this way.

Answer 7

I think that teenagers should wait. It takes a lot of time and responsibility to have a baby. I am 23 with a 2 year old and to tell you the truth I have no life other than being a mom. I don't hardly ever hang out with my friends anymore (because no one else has kids). It's not always the easiest thing finding a babysitter. I can't even go to the grocery store alone....let alone the bathroom!
Take your time, have fun. Because once you have babies....you will never really have time for yourself. I love my child and I love being a mom. I am glad that I waited to have a baby cause I got to have fun and go places when I had the chance. Now, if you do by chance get pregnant....I don't think that abortion should be an option. If you thought that you were grown up enough to have sex, then you should be grown up enough to suffer the consequences for your actions. I don't think that it is the babies fault if you are not ready to be a mom/dad. If you weren't ready then maybe you should have used some protection. You asked me to be honest....so I am ! =)

Answer 8

I dont blame anyone. I was 16 when I got pregnant. I chose to get pregnant the second I chose unprotected sex, period. My daughter is an honor student in college now. I bought a house in a middlecalss town when I was 26. I managed- my family was not supportive at all- I had to rely on the kindness of others, a lot, and made a consious effort to express my gratitude by making the most of every opportunity.

Teen pregnancy can work out- a girl just has to get herself together and know that this is serious. Pretty girls and bouncing boys is not what this is about. Its about the quiet time, when you look into that tiny face and you realize her life depends on you. Its not about fashion, or show, or gangsta, or looking phat, preppy, or anything else- this is a human being and I think a lot of very young mothers forget that. Babies can be a novelty, someone who validates you and initiates you into adulthood, which is tru- in a way, but that is not whats important. Teen mothers are still kids and need to be nurtured and guided too- they can care for their babies, then need to truly hold them and speak to them, teem moms need to realize and acknowledge their responsibility while accepting the care and love they can receive from others for themselves.

Answer 9

I don't think we know enough or are sensible enough to have kids until at least 25, you only have to look at some of the young mothers nowadays to see that.
Children are getting less common sense every year & that is in some part due to young parents who had to leave their own education early.
They should have the same benefits after all it's for the child just the same as if they were 25 altho we need to stop the getting pregnant for a flat & benefit money which doesn't go on the child but why should the child suffer just because it's mother was only 16.

Answer 10

In many 'advanced' societies, there are minimum age laws for marriage. There are good reasons for such legislation. 1) Young bodies are too immature and having babies can cause complications, if not immediately, later in life. 2) Young people are not emotionally or psychologically mature enough to handle the immense responsibilites of motherhood. I might add a third reason, and that is because of child labor laws, young people generally do not have the financial resources to look after their offspring.
1)Most young women are still growing and developing in their teen years and need the calcium and other nutrients for ther own growth. A baby takes the necessary nutrients from the body which can weaken the girl's body structurally, causing problems later in life. The birthing process itself is extremely stressful to the body and it's not uncommon for women to suffer tears, dislocations or internal damage.
2) Teenagers are generally going through a very rough period in their lives - some of it hormonal and some of it social. Raging hormones can cause unpredictable behavior and needless to say, one needs a very understanding presence to help calm them down. It seems obvious that children who are not grown up enough to hold their emotions in check should not have a vulnerable living creature in their hands. An abused child is not a pretty sight and while I do not say all teens will abuse their babies, the statistics suggest teenage motherhood should be strongly discouraged.
3) When one has a baby, I'm afraid a few diapers, a bottle and love are not enough. While love is essential, the child deserves a chance to live decently when he grows up. That means, the child needs proper nutrition, proper medical care, proper education and training, and parents that set a good example for them as responsible adults. A chance at a good education costs money. Some might say, if he's smart enough, he can get a scholarship. That's true, assuming he has grown up in an environment that values education and he can go to a school that will prepare him/her properly for college. A young woman who can't work and hence has to rely on public assistance can hardly afford to do that. Besides, what kind of example is she setting for her child. Some teens do a wonderful job of raising their kids, but really, life is long. Enjoy your youth when you can because youth is one thing you can't buy and when it passes you by, that's it.

Answer 11

Children also cost a great deal of money, and most teenagers don't think about this when they are becoming pregnant. Teenagers these days already have so many other ways that they want their money to flow, such as cars and college. Also, correct me if I'm wrong, but a survey indicated that 3 out of 4 teenage fathers completely abandoned the new mother and child, and it is always best for a child to live with a mother AND a father.