my daughters been excluded from school she is special needs l.e.a. say residental is now the only option but i am afraid it will cause severe emotional problems for her has she will be away from me (mum) she is 13 + i am her only attachment she has i feel iam greiving but i can understand my feelings she wont understand fully why she has 2 go what effect will it have on her?
2006-07-08 01:25:32 · 9 answers · asked by sylvia 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
In the beginning your daughter will probably completely fall apart and her behaviors will be even worse.After awhile, the staff will get through to your daughter and she'll show lots of progress hopefully andafter awhile she'll be able to come home.
I know exactly how you are feeling.I've been in your shoesMy son has told me he hated me for sending him and even told me not to come see him.I spoke with the program and gave him a few weeks to adjust before I went to see him.He was happy to see me.Almost a yr later he came home and has learned alot of coping skills.
2006-07-08 11:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by vze4h35z@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a special education teacher that works at a center that offers both residential and day services. I worked in the residential part of the center for 3 years. I have seen great progress with many of the students in this placement. Not knowing what your exact situation is it is difficult to assess what affect this placement with have on your daughter. Keep in mind that good residential programs do not and should not restrict the number of times parents or loved ones can visit, or the number of times that a parents can take thier child home for visits. Your daughter should receive 1:1 or 1:2 teaching to student interatction. Residental placement is a great way for your child to be able to work on and aquire new social skills, peer interaction skills, and domestic skills. I have seen many students make exceptional gains with the above mentioned skills when being placed in residential services. It will be difficult for both you and your daugher during the first month while trying to adjust to your new way of life but in my experience both chid and parents are usually very pleased when new and exciting advances start to shine through. Usually when residential is offered to you there is a good reason. If your chid is becoming too diffiucult to safely manage in your home this may be the thing your need to improve the quality of life and safety for both you and your daughter. Remember that the educators are there to assist you in making a decision based on your individual needs, do not let anyone force you into making a decision about your chid's placement that you are not comfortable with, and look into the specail education laws for your area that can be found on any states education website to see what type of funding and other options may be available to you. Residential placement can be a very good way for you to see great progress in your daughter's skill aquisition.
Nathan Miller
M.S ed
2006-07-08 07:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nathan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried a Day Treatment Program? There are many day treatment programs out there. They aren't residential, and have great results. I used to teach at one for students with severe emotional impairments. Otherwise, you can look for Personal Care Assistants. If this doesn't work, then the residential might be the only way to go. But, keep in mind, it will get better. But, it will get worse first. Behaviors escalate when intervened at first, but they descend afterwards. Good Luck!
2006-07-08 15:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may do her a lot of good, depends on the school, Keep in touch with her as much as possible whilst she is away, These schools are set up in such a way that the kids are kept very busy with plenty of activities, so there should be very little time for her to worry to much.
Get in touch with the school thet will put you mind at rest about any worries you may have, As I said before, the most important thing is to let her know you are there as much as possible.
2006-07-08 01:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell. Remember, it's not a prison. You can always bring her home!
You never know, it may work out fine for both of you.
If her comprehension is poor, she'll probably adapt better than you will. Give it a go, you may both benefit from being apart for a while and come out the other side better people.
While she's away, try and do something to occupy yourself - take the opportunity to go to college for example.......
Good luck.
2006-07-08 01:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the answer but I know people who do. Look here: http://www.masilc.org/docs/addresses.html
These are independent living centers in my area. I have been working for one of them for 7 years. They can help your daughter stay at home with the help of a PCA (personal care attendent), or help you find an appropriate school. Live in or day programs. You didn't say where you are from. If you email me with more info about your location, I will try to help you more.
2006-07-08 01:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Debi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably lots of effects.
Why was she excluded, is she an ASBO kid. If she is, good riddance.
If she's just slow then it's unfortunate, but it might be for the best.
2006-07-08 01:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may find it harder for you than her as these schools tend to be well set up now but keep an eye on her and how she is feeling , she may love it or hate it but you as her mother will know - give her lots of love and reassurance -
Lets all be glad we dont have Alan S as our dad - what a jerk - should be an asbo on him and remove him from society
2006-07-08 11:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by citychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to see what effect it has on her. If you can stand the thought of what effect she might suffer don't send her.
2006-07-08 01:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by vwallwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋