2006-07-08 00:37:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's not love. That's control. It is not good. Putting you down is an attempt to break your spirit and your self esteem. It also shows that he thinks very little or nothing about you. He wants sex because that again is a control issue, to dominate you, humiliate you and put you in your place so you will understand who the lord and master is. Tell him to go take a hike. Run don't walk, get away from that loser before you waste one more precious moment of your life on him. He can't change and won't. It will only get worse. Trust me...I put up with it and married it like a fool. Been there, done that and got the T shirt and divorce decree to prove it.
2006-07-08 00:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needs a swift kick in the .......You need to let him know sex is more emotional than physical for you, and that it is virtually impossible to give yourself to him completely if you feel emotionally detached. His putting you down, and then wanting to have sex is especially degrading. If this is an ongoing problem, you need to reevaluate this relationship's value.
2006-07-08 00:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by bama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being controlling and manipulative. He's one of those people who only feels good about himself when there's someone he can feel "superior" to.
He belittles you...makes you feel bad, and then has the need to be the dominant one and procreate.
You need to just kick this one to the curb and move on. He's being abusive, and it'll escalate to physical abuse at some point.
2006-07-08 00:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he really put you down, or do you just think it?
how do his comments make you feel?
do you have sex with him after he puts you down?
do you have much self esteem? self respect?
you need to think about your value to yourself. if his putdowns make you angry or hurt, if it's a constant thing, then you probably shouldn't be with him.
if his putdowns don't bother you but having sex afterward does, then you need to talk to him about it. tell him straight up that actually, he's not getting his end away after telling you something nasty so if he wants a bit of action, he needs to start telling you nice things.
he won't respect you unless you respect yourself. good luck.
2006-07-14 09:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by stufetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt his problem its yours. As long as you have sex you are creating a reward system. NO sex no reward, No reward no put downs. And you might want to loose some weight.
2006-07-08 00:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by snakeofcharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say he is your loved one! and he puts you down????? no loved one behaves that way! he is simply putting you down to feel good about himself( he is an insecure person) and then by having sex with you he is showing off his power over you! a kind of of victory show! look i can abuse you and i can **** you
2006-07-08 03:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by tapchau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a Psychologist, but i quite know that your prob is more complex than being explained in one or two lines. i suggest you to explain in more details. don't expect to find your appropriate answer with this simple question. & If I were u, i'd look for THE prob, not HIS!
2006-07-08 00:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is underconfident with himself, wants you to feel that you are unnattractive so that you dont think someone else will want you..........so think about it, when he puts you down, that must mean you really are somethin , that you got the looks.
2006-07-08 00:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he live in a cave and doesn't quite know how to start a fire yet?
2006-07-08 00:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by kjadmartin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your obviously worthless but fun in bed.
2006-07-08 00:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋