I was close friends with a girl who I liked, so I told her. She responded by saying that she just wanted to be friends. This was about 2 weeks ago. Over the course of the last 2 weeks she has kissed me many times and we have cuddled intimately alot. She rings me 1st thing in the morning and last thing at night, and many times during the day. We go out for dinner alot! She has told me everything about her! We talk for hours each day.
She still says we are friends. Says she has gotten hurt by previous boyfriends many times and not long ago and is scared of giving her heart away again.
What does this mean? Does she even like me? What should I do?
2006-07-08 00:24:36 · 13 answers · asked by PLH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i think she dosent maybe you should play by the dating rules
2006-07-08 00:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her enough time to heal the wounds brought about by her previos relationships. Perhaps, the wounds deeply penetrated her whole being leaving her brokenhearted, in despair and depressed. That may take a long time to heal.
But the mere fact that she has not turned you down and even kissed you many times surely means that she is interested in you. No woman in her right mind and decency wiould allow a man to kiss and cuddle her a lot even if they have no intimate relationship if she didn't like him at all. Lust would be the main ingredient in this kind of affair which I think is not true to both of you.
I'm sure she's very interested in you because she would not waste her time calling you in the morning and at night wherein you talk for hours. I don't call that time-wasting, rather I call it relationship-building.
She's buying time at the moment and perhaps that's all she needs to analyze if her emotional wounds have healed and if she is ready for another relationship. She had traumatic love affairs perhaps which created her fear to love once more believing in her heart that that relationship again won't work at all. That's what you have to erase from her mind by constantly telling her that not all men are the same and give her your commitment that you will always love her. Don't ever give up on her because your romance is coming very soon as I see it. Good luck.
2006-07-08 07:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be longing for your reassurance that you will not hurt her if it moves beyond friendship and she seems to say i want a relationship but I'm afraid. Will you reassure me that I wont get hurt. Remember this. The future is not guaranteed so don't promise what you cant keep. However , always give it your best effort. I wish you joy, hope, and peace. Good luck and much wisdom.
2006-07-08 07:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have told that she has told everything bout her to u , u spend hrs. togethern even she kissed u. all these shows that she likes u. but as u told that she has been hurted by her earlier b/fs many times that's why she is afraid to love anybody now. now if u really love her then try to develop faith bout u in her. this will take time but once she develop faith in u, she will love u forever. so try to develop her faith in u. but remember one thing that not to cheat her or tell anything false to her. coz if she begin to trust u n if later she find that u r also cheating her like others she will nernever trust anybody in her life. so first of all ask urself do u really love her?
2006-07-08 07:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by archi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a gentle hand. I say best friends shouldn't mix it with a relationdhip. If something were to happen you not only lose a loved one but your best friend too. You no longer have that friend to talk to, to lean on when times get tough.
2006-07-08 07:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some time. Maybe she is looking something more from you that you are not showing(like show that you care by calling her every morning and night makingsure that she's ok).
2006-07-08 07:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Microbes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, you lucky devil......she likes you and is testing the waters with you, feeling you out you might say. Be there for her and she will be there for you.
Continue to talk to her about anything and everything, she wants you to be her soul mate.
taking it to the next level should be done slowly, make sure it is something you both want not a one sided thing.
email me on truckie201071@yahoo.com.au if you want to chat - been through this scenario myself.
2006-07-08 07:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she likes u very much coz i am sure as hell i wouldn't call a guy i didn't like the first thang in the morn.i think she is afraid of being hurt again.take it slow and ask her if this is what she does with all her frenz since she says u are just frenz
2006-07-08 07:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by tmone232003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, slow down a bit. Splash cold water on your face. Think it might take some more time before you will know fer sure. Good luck!!!!
2006-07-08 07:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by TL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. She is toying with you... although she may be considering what you've said, and seeing you in a new light. Sadly, most girls want what they can't have... I would suggest making yourself less available, and she just might come around.
2006-07-08 07:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you. If she didn't, she wouldn't be spending this much time with you. She is being "once stung, twice shy". If you really like her, give her time and space.
2006-07-08 07:28:43 · answer #11 · answered by James F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋