why do i have doubt, am i gay or normal? i'm affraid when i married. what should i do?

Question

when a woman touch me. i feel horny. but when i look a man, i feel horny. i'm affraid of myself. are all guy feels like me? i'm still virgin and i'm 20

Answer 1

Don't give in to the temptation. We all have temptations, but we chose whether or not to fall into them.

Answer 2

Bless you for being a virgin at 20. You will make someone a good spouse someday. Love and lust are two different things. Love is a decision and a committment. When you decide if your spouse will be female or male, you need to keep your promises to them which means talking allot first.

When you lust after a woman, most likely you are horney. When you lust after a man, you most likely have a self image issue. He looks good, you want to look good, you desire to look good, which translates into wanting to posses his looks and thus him. Attractions between likes and opposites can be very complicated.

My guess is that you are just lonely and that often comes out in the feelings you are having. By the way gay is normal for many people. Look up the Kinsey studies on the net. That may help you not only accept your feelings, but also accept others.

Answer 3

Being virgin probably makes you horny a lot at age 20. Virginity is not a bad thing, but it makes it hard for you to judge what you want. You don't exactly say why you are afraid about when you are married. Are you getting married soon?

My thought is that you need to resolve these feelings before you consider marriage.

Answer 4

It is possible that you are bisexual; it also equally possible that you are just a horny virgin who turned on by the idea of sex in general. It is not unusual to have sexual ideations when looking at either gender when you have not experienced either. When the time is right you will have the opportunity to explore this question through application rather than theory. Be patient. Meanwhile, know that you can enjoy sex with either gender, or both, and still be normal!

Answer 5

There is a delight to homosexuals to recruit young adolescents for that very reason--hormonal sexual response to a variety of stimuli. The fixing hasn't set in. So the recruiter says, "See? You are one of us!", and then lavishes attention in hopes that the boy will not also fix desires to females. If the fix sets, then the mission is accomplished and the gay brotherhood has won another. In you the fix hasn't set. In part, I suspect, because of the mixed messages. Lots of people are advertising themselves sexually, and the message your brain is getting is, "Sex? Okay, the switch is on, getting ready for the big blast off." The physical body is wanting its release and it doesn't much care whether its a hand or hairy knot hole on a board fence. Start thinking with deliberation on what image is exciting you, turning on the switch. BTW, it is no crime to be a virgin all your life, don't let folks pressure you into what you are not ready or right for. Good luck.

Answer 6

You're either bi or gay. I was pretty much in this same situation when I was your age. I came out when I was 21. Im still attracted to girls, but not to the point where I want to pursue it. I more admire them. Its been a while since I have touched a girl but Im sure that I would still get turned on. Looking at men has always turned me on more than looking at women and I would rather be gay than to have to be one of those guys that gets married and has kids and ends up coming out in their 40's. It takes a while to come to terms with your sexuality. Ive tried, like many other gay men, to make myself straight (no gay porn, no fantasizing about men, no looking at men...). It doesnt work. Just dont be afraid to experiment.

Answer 7

You're probably bi-sexual. You find yourself sexually excited by both men and women. Now what you really need to do to confirm this is to have sexual experiences with both men and women. If you find you enjoy them both then congratulations, you are bi-sexual. Don't be afraid of yourself. What you need to be is open and truthful with yourself. Do not be ashamed, be proud that you are able to actually ask yourself these questions as opposed to suppressing them and going into denial. As far as marriage goes, think of it like this. If you are bi-sexual, that is fine. Some heterosexual men lust after other women even when married. All it will mean for you is that you will lust for other women and men. There is not problem in that so long as you stay faithful to your spouse. Explore your sexuality, but do it safely, and be honest with yourself.

Answer 8

Perhaps you are gay and you are not aware of it yourself. Go and explore your own sexuality then decide if you want to marry a woman or choose a man as your life-partner. Being gay is normal. Be true to your feelings

Answer 9

Man you are gay, I had the same feeling for a woman, but as time went on, I really loved men. So stop fooling yourself before it is to late.

Answer 10

You're quite likely to be bisexual.

If you're still a virgin you should give a try, with women and with men --separately, if possible.

Then you'll be able to decide.

And, I must say, being gay is being normal, too. For me, at least.

Hope this helps.

Bye.

Answer 11

We are drawn to what we concentrate on.

When I go into a store, the thought sometimes comes into my headt that I could put something in my pocket and just walk out of the store. This is true, but is this the kind of person that I want to be?

When the cashier gives me too much change, I could easily just ignore it and walk out. They are usually quite annoyed when I make them check it - and actually surprised when they find out that the error is in their favour.

What kind of person do you want to be?

Often there is a choice involved.