I got divorced 2 yrs ago after catching my wife cheating. I don't trust woman. How do I trust woman again?

Answer 1

Tough one...but you have to realize that she was ONE Bad woman in the world of women. Not all of us are cheaters! You just need to be honest w/ the next girl that you are in a relationship w. Tell her that you have problems trusting all women, BUT don't make her suffer for your wife's mistake.

Remember..there are some good women left...just find ONE

Answer 2

well, not all women are like that. I know that your head can think that but your heart is really what is what has a wall up still. Totally understandable. What you should do is just be friends with a few women. That way if you do not get romantically involved, it will be easier if something bad happens between you. But if you are friends with few women for at least 6 months (you get to know them), then you are able to tell what kind of women are more trustworthy than others. Trust is a big issue with many people. Many people will have to earn your trust. That is a hard thing to learn to do for the trustee. Good luck in your quest. Blessed Be.

Answer 3

We are our past, but you have to be willing to trust to gain trust. If you think that every woman will cheat on you and distrust them. Then Probably a lot more woman that you date will because you will act as if they already have. Which doesn't give them much reason to not cheat. not saying this is the cause but think about it. If you are beat over the head with something sometimes you just feel like doing it. Any person with character wouldn't use that excuse. you have to just start each person you date with a limited amount of trust and as time goes on you will give them more trust. But if you always get mad if she talks to any other males then dating will never lead any farther. you haven't moved on from your past until you can date a woman and be ok with her having male friends. You don't feel the need to always check up on her.


also comments like "stop looking at their body and start liking their character." almost make it sound like if you are pretty then you don't have good character. Character if very much a main feature you should be looking at, but the person you marry you should at least be attracted too. Looking just at a body just means you are ignoring their character, but that in no way means they have bad character. Often the people who say things like this are insecure about themselves. If you are truly secure in your looks, you don't have to be a supermodel. Being pretty has less to do with looks and more to do with how you present yourself. What you say, what you do, all affect how attractive you are. The prettiest females I have found are everyday females not supermodels.

Whether you are a male or a female learn to be more secure in just being you because that is one of the hottest qualities of all. Oh but don't be so into being you, you squish the other person.

Answer 4

Dear Burnt again, The answer to your question is......VERY SLOWLY. Trust me I have been burnt before too. I didn't trust men at all and still have some difficulty but I am getting better at it. Try becoming friends with women before getting involved with them. That way you may be able to see if she will be faithful or not. This doesn't always work, but most women will tell friends their true thoughts and feelings before they will tell a boyfriend. Keep your chin up there really is a few of us left who are honest. The problem is that we have been burnt and have a rough time trusting others as well.

Answer 5

Very tough question. Both my ex-wives had affairs on me and I too would not let anyone in. I went through several relationships and the trust is what ruined them. Over time the trust slowly returned but it is a constant battle within myself. I found by letting go of the past and being with someone that shows how much they love you the trust has slowly started returning. It takes a lot of time and a good woman. I wish you all the best.

Answer 6

Just because one woman in your life cheats, does not mean all women will do the same. If someone is cheating then there is something wrong in the relationship.And there are many reasons why a person strays. Just because it happened once does not mean it will happen again. Don't loose faith because of one bad experience. Move on and , and if you don't jump into a relationship you'll know who is right for you, when the time is right.

Answer 7

First of all, you need to forgive your wife for hurting and betraying you the way that she did. If you don't forgive her, then you will always bring unnecassary bagage into your next marriage, thus cheating yourself and your new love out of an awesome experience, because she will always be trying to heal you with her love for you while you are still holding on to all of your hurt and pain that your EX has caused you. It is no fair to you or her. I know what I am talking about, my husband was in the same situation, and in the end, I had to sit him down and talk with him about this. Now he realizes that he has been unfair to me from the get go.

Answer 8

I have same problem but not about divorce because I am near to get marriage but my wife is cheating and I am tired about her because every time she is bring me reason and she is telling me lie I am same you and will never trust woman again but may be in future will fiind new opportunity just this tima I am trying to forget her before marriage

Answer 9

Every woman diserves a chance. Not all women cheet. You can find some really great ones out there who would never cheet.... Just keep looking or just wait for the right one to come to you. Trust me she will come along at some time or another and she will not cheet on you. I know what it feels like to be cheeted on. And I am sorry for your mishap... I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 10

Please read this: It isn't a matter of how much you trust others. The degree to which you trust other people is in direct proportion to your own ability to deal with a potential betrayal. If you know that you can deal with anything and rebuild yourself after a personal disaster, then you can trust anyone. If you know that another betrayal would destroy you, then obviously you can't afford to trust. You have to trust in your own ability to cope before you can trust someone else. It's about you, not them.