how do i get my 3week baby to sleep in his cot not in my arms?

Question

hiya
my baby sleeps in my arms and when i put him in his cot no matter how long hes been in my arms he will wake up cry and when i hold him again he falls back to sleep
help

Answer 1

The first step is to wait until he is developmentally ready. This usually happens between 6 and 12 months. You will know he is ready because he will do it easily. A 3 week old baby is *not* mature enough to sleep all alone--just like it would be unreasonable to expect him to get a job and earn his keep.

Answer 2

First, stop holding him all the time. Baby's love human touch, but if you hold him all day, he'll not ever want to be put down. Letting him cry for a few minutes won't hurt him. Have you tried rolling up a blanket beside him when you lay him down so he can feel something near? Babies don't like open spaces much. He just came out of a tight cramped dark place and now he's got space everywhere. It can be scary for a baby until he gets used to it. You might also try putting something near him that smells like you, or some type of monitor that sounds like a heartbeat.

Answer 3

where would u rather sleep? in ur mums warm embrace or a cold hard mattress lol. its hrad for them to get it, they think we revolve around thme and when we r away from them we stop exsisting. ur baby needs to fall asleep in the cot, if u fell alseep with a pillow and then u woke up to find someone had taken it wouldnt u start yelling and feakin out, like wise when they fall asleep in ur arms then during one of their many light sleep phases realise they in a cot they freak out.. wheres mum? what happened where am i? etc. when bub is due for a sleep fed changed etc put them in their cot u may want to try swaddling which works for many babes, ie wrapping tightly, (sometimes cots are so big babes get scared of open space u might try a bassient or basket) then let bub cry only for a few mins at a time go in dont pick them up just reasure them its ok and leave again, slowly take longer to go back so at first 2 mins go in then 3 mins and go in etc. eventually they will go to sleep, the longest it really took mine was 20 mins. keep at it theyll get the pic, and ull be so happy when ur free of them sleepin in ur arms which is very tiring. they will sleep better and longer and be happier when they wake too. ps at 3 weeks it may not be a bad thing if while bub sleeps in ur amrs u sleep to, but eventuall they have to go to sleep alone so u may as well start now, mine did sleep in my arms a lot in the first months but i slept too.. good luck

Answer 4

It's really normal and natural for him to be like this. He is still incredibly young and needs you very, very much. Some babies just need to be close to mum.

What worked best for us was sleeping with baby for a while. There could be some stigma to it but if you are breastfeeding, it makes life a lot easier because you don't even have to get out of bed to nurse. And either way, baby will be a lot happier sleeping with you. Baby is way too young to know anyting about control and way too young to be capable of learning to put himself to sleep so just enjoy this wonderful time you have with him - you'll never again get the opportunity to be so close to your son! I miss my daughter sleeping on my chest, she's way to big for that now (10 months).
goodluck. whatever it is that you do, please try and be gentle, and don't leave him to cry.

Answer 5

Put him in his cot and let him cry. Don't move away before he sleeps, sing to him or caress him from time to time, but don't take him out. He just has to get used to it. Good luck.

Answer 6

I used to swaddle my daughter and place her on her side up against the bumber. that way she wouldn't roll, but wasn't flat on her back, i think that alot of babies don't like to be on their backs, but if you wrap him up and tilt him a bit, he'll be more in the position he would be if he were in your arms and may be more comfortable.

Answer 7

swaddle him in the blanket and leave him to go to sleep on his own in his cot. the longer you cuddle him to sleep the harder it will be to get him to sleep on his own and you will be faced with some problems later.

Answer 8

well after being in you thats where your baby wanna be next to his mother its hard for a new born baby to get use to something other than moms belly

Answer 9

my daughter slept with me till she was 3 months old..then we gradually laid her in her crib during naps and bedtime to get her used to it...we didnt get much sleep but she's doing fine in her crib now. (she is 5 months now).