here's the thing. a person tells you, he's NOT in love with you, no, he isn't (without even you asking) but do everything to get close to you to the point of demanding from you all your time, if possible, all day and for the rest of your life, and he hates all your other friends because you want to be with them, and worse, accuse you of flirting with them in front of so many people. and when he thinks you're being unfair in dealing with him, he would begin running around telling all those people both of you knew what kind of a person you are --- a jerk/***** or whatever, and when you react and explain your side, he would think that you're a backstabber or something. what would you do with this kind of person?
2006-07-07 23:08:43 · 19 answers · asked by Inquirer 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
i am not in a relationship with him. and i made it clear that i am not interested in him. i have already said that i have my own life to live, and i don't owe him anything.
2006-07-07 23:09:02 · update #1
i badly want him to go, as in buzz off. it's so stupid really, i thought being a nice person to everybody would be the best thing to do but apparently it's giving me a terrible headache, not only that, it's terribly bothersome to have a person like him in my life.
2006-07-07 23:09:20 · update #2
by the way, i forgot to mention, he told me that his friends are very angry with me and that they are just near... i think it was a threat.
2006-07-07 23:45:16 · update #3
There are some people you can't be nice to. (I've lived long enough to learn this.) He may be a psycho stalker and sounds like you should definitely report him to the authorities, tell your best friend and your parents, your boss, neighbors, and the cops! Be on your guard and if possible do some research on his background and see if has done this to anyone else in the past. This dude sounds like a control freak to me. Just be careful--don't know what might make him snap!! You sound like you have some sense and deserve so much better than this! Make sure you are not alone when and if you decide to tell him off. This is America--women have the right to be safe and free!
2006-07-07 23:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by bookluffer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Bookluffer is right. This sounds like some kind of control freak, and I wonder if he has got a psychological problem that needs sorting before he hurts you or someone else.
Are you afraid that if you back right off he will do something desperate? Get some professional counselling as to how handle this the best way, and make sure you tell everyone about this problem, from your family and friends, to relevant professionals.
You are entitled to your own life, and I think you are going to have to get on with leading it, and not grant your time to this person. I hope he hasn't got a key to your home door, but if he has, change the locks. If he is in the habit of just turning up on your doorstep whenever he pleases, this has to stop, and that is, again, where I think you need some help and support as to the best way to stop it.
Whatever you do, your own life and safety is paramount.
2006-07-08 06:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by aliantha2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot more problems than just this guy bothering you. You need to build up your spine, chick! If you don't want him around, tell him to f*ck off. Then don't talk to him. He can't hurt you unless you let him, and I'm betting money that you spend time and emotion on this guy, no matter what you tell other people.
2006-07-08 06:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain your feelings to him. Maybe the two of you can be friends. If not, kick him to the curb. There are too many fish in the sea to allow one person to upset you.
2006-07-08 06:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by elainecedar1219 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm depends on his age. He could be in denial. If it's a young man, Id suggest you distance yourself from him for awhile...give him a chance to figure it out. If it is a more mature man, stay far far away.
2006-07-08 06:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by keats27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm for kick him in the nads with steel toed boots, he just wants laid.
To the curb with the creep, don't be naive, move on.
2006-07-08 06:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by badfinger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that jerk to back off and get a life!!
2006-07-08 06:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by prinsisss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one:they could still see who it was with a wood chipper =P and stay away from him...beat the shet out of ihm once or twice till he learns not to fluck with u
2006-07-08 06:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ulrich DellaRobbia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other guy. Just dig a deep hole or rent a wood chipper.
2006-07-08 06:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
presevere
persist.
insist that you do not want to be with him'
sit down with him and talk with him about it. hje needs to know how u feel from the heart. he needs to know how u feel. he needs to know that he is hurting you. ask him if he would like that. he might not like you, but if hes in it for the sex or w/e then its time to make a firm stand
2006-07-08 06:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Hyphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋